Is it normal to lie to save the relationship?

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My boyfriend & I were constantly fighting and one morning I decided to break it off with him. I was tired of the arguing and I wanted my freedom, that is seriously my only reason for doing. I cried for the rest of the day realizing I shouldn't have done it. Later that day I go to a party get drunk and hook up with some guy, we're making out on the wall and finally he says we should go to my car, I say no but he still goes & gets my keys from a friend. I couldn't walk but he sort of dragged me to my car and when we got in we did even more. We didn't have sex but I didn't want to do anything that was happening at all, blowjob & eating out. It somehow just kept happening. I regret it ALL. I call my boyfriend & told him sorry and that it was a mistake (the breakup) nothing about the guy though. Couple weeks later his friend tells him about what he heard about me, my boyfriend questions me & I denied it. He easily forgave me & we NEVER talked about it again. I still feel guilty but I know I would take it back if I could. is it normal to keep this kind of secret from this kid I love so much to save our relationship? Ever since then, I haven't even talked to a guy & I've been 100% committed to him.

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  • dom180
    12 years ago

    If you had not already denied it, I would say tell him. Seeing as you have already denied it then you should stick with the lie, because if you tell him now he'll definitely leave you. Hopefully it'll all blow over. If you think there is any chance of him finding out, tell him yourself before someone else does, if he finds out without you he'll leave you anyway. If it is preying on your mind, wait until the relationship seems stable, then tell him what you did. He might forgive you, and you'll be free of your guilt either way.

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    • Conchita863
      12 years ago

      That is what I'm hoping to do.
      This guilt is a horrible feeling though.

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      • RaNdOmPoPcOrN
        12 years ago

        What did he say?

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    Keep it secret for the rest of your life and don't ever feel tempted to tell him. He will dump you immediately and hate you for lying. Some people want to tell it so that they actually feel better but it's guaranteed your bf will feel 1000 times worse :o(

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  • shade_ilmaendu
    12 years ago

    Honey... I hate to be the one to say this, but you didn't want it. You were drunk, he took advantage of you. That guy raped you. :(

    And you should tell someone, because that's not right and that guy oughta pay for what he did.

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  • TehPurpleOne
    12 years ago

    She didn't technically cheat. Also, whores don't feel any regret when they whore their whore selves around. This girl feels regret, and it seems like she was taken advantage of.

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  • bittersweet21
    12 years ago

    You didnt cheat on him so I see nothing wrong with it... If you told him what happened then it would cause unnecessary arguing and probably another breakup.

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    • 41ph4m413
      12 years ago

      A blowjob is cheating, you fucking whore.

      I hope the guy dumps you.

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      • Conchita863
        12 years ago

        You must be a dude. This website says, "We're here to help each other, so play nice."
        So how about you go elsewhere with your BS, you aren't helping anyone.

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        • 41ph4m413
          12 years ago

          Yes I am a dude, does that make my opinion automatically not matter? A BLOWJOB IS CHEATING. Would you want your boyfriend licking another woman's pussy, or even just making out with random women? I mean he's not have vaginal intercourse so its totally not cheating right?

          It IS cheating. You dug yourself a big hole here, I think the best you can do is tell him what happened and hope he doesn't dump your slutty ass immediately.

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    • Conchita863
      12 years ago

      Thats what I thought to, it's just the guilt thats killing me.

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  • dontgiveup:)
    12 years ago

    Woah! Don't be calling the girl a whore! Everyone learns from their mistakes, and she clearly regrets it! Hun, you should tell you're boyfriend... Tell him exactly what you told us here, if things don't turn out right then you tried... And if he does forgive you, then you hold on tight to him because he loves you! Goodluck! :)

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  • norm-a-nah
    9 years ago

    Keep it to yourself it is best and you shouldn't feel bad since you are 100% with him it was just a lesson learned. :)

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  • TehPurpleOne
    12 years ago

    I say tell your boyfriend... You were taken advantage of, he'll understand if he cares about you. If not, then the relationship isn't worth it.

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  • AngAnders112
    12 years ago

    If the situation were reversed, would you want your bf to come clean even after he'd already lied to u?

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    • Conchita863
      12 years ago

      Honestly no, I would rather just not know at all.

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