Is it normal to let your wife have a regular lover?

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I really had to post something here... My wife and I are both good looking and intelligent people. My wife is actually stunning and wild in the bedroom. Her and I have a great sex life and are very much in love. She is always satisfied and turned-on by me.
We did some swinging about 5 years ago and then we were exclusive with one couple that we saw about once a year only. Then my wife and I wanted to have a little bit more so we rejoined a swinging site about 4 months ago. We were open to everything: MMF, FFM, FFMM.
We first met a man about the same age as us. We went to his place and after about 30 minutes they quickly and passionately kissed and began foreplay. He almost made her cum orally (wish she NEVER did before!) I was a tad bit jealous I have to admit. Then we went to the bedroom and she started to ride his cock. We are talkers during sex. So she was saying how good his cock fell and how he knew how to fuck her well. Then (she told me later) she had the best and longest orgasm of her life! I had problems getting myself hard for some reason. I only fucked her at the end.
Long story short: She really was into him sexually. She told me that they had a perfect compatibility. I thought that she was maybe exaggerating and that she was mostly aroused by the mood of having 2 men.
Then we saw him again a few days ago. She had the same orgasm with him again. So the chemistry was confirmed.
After he left, she told me that she wanted him to be her lover. That she would have sex with him, with my consent only, without me being there. She repeated that it would only be with my consent and that she would tell me every time she would do it. She said that it had NOTHING to do with me and that she was totally satisfied with me and it would just be a sex thing. She does not want to break our family apart. She was being sincere.
And she added that if I find a woman that she trusts, she will let me do the same thing.
I don't know what to say to her. I don't know if saying yes will make me less of a man. And I know that every time that she will go see her lover, she will come back to me horny as hell! I LOVE watching my wife being f*cked in front of me and the fact that I will not see what happen bothers me.
I love her enough to say yes. I want her to be happy.
I have not give an answer yet. I don't know what to do...
Sorry for the length of my post but I just had to tell someone.
Anybody here did this? Did it worked?

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Comments ( 10 )
  • JD777
    9 years ago

    My ex and I were swingers and had a couple that were regular playmates of ours. The female of that couple wanted to do the same thing and he was hesitant, like you. He eventually let her play by herself. Within a year she left him and took the kids, half the money and he pays her alimony. Think hard about this. Just your hesitation makes me think you should say no. If you decide to let her, wait until she ok's someone to be your playmate. Even then, I think this is a really slippery slope to trouble.

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  • stopandthink
    9 years ago

    Stuff like that is basically sluttiness, but only in a couple. Which makes it even worse. Personally I'd never go for that crap.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    That whole lifestyle is bad for ya'll.

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  • Ebola69
    9 years ago

    Sorry, but you and your wife are not full human beings. Maybe somewhere just above a chimpanzee. I really hope you don't vote or drive on public roads.

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    If you say yes, she'll probably end up becoming emotionally attached to the guy after some time.

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  • 213
    9 years ago

    I will never share my wife with someone never she better go if she want to be shared

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  • wafflesundays
    9 years ago

    Just swinging in.genral is bad in my books I split up with my ex because we couldnt trust each other after 5years

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  • bandit12
    4 years ago

    My wife used to play with others. There's nothing hotter than watching your wife getting your wife getting fucked by a mate while his wife sucks your cock. Except maybe eating her pussy after another bloke had fucked her.

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  • Biparzam40
    6 years ago

    11 years with one lover

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  • ArayaLioness
    9 years ago

    It depends on what you want. She's clearly very happy with him and he satisfies her more than you do. How do you feel?

    If you're BOTH okay with it, then why not. I don't agree with it, but it's not me.

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