Is it normal to let your friend cut?

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i don't cut, but my best friend does, we have kinda have this separation-anxiety when we get attached to people, we really don't want to let go. but this year she went to a different school, and we had to leave each other behind(we are very, very close, more than sisters)and we both are through depression(last year too) so being separated from her really makes me feel uncomfortable, but anyway, yesterday she called me and told me she cuts herself, i asked her why(even though i kinda knew) she said she couldn't take all the stress and being away from me(she admitted i was a type of 'security blanket' for her) now the best i can do is keep her over my house as much as possible and assure her i'm always here, but that doesn't seem to help much because she does it anyway, i don't want to tell her to stop because i've tried it before, she knows this and will be like "why do you hate me?!" and will storm off and probably never talk to me again which i'm afraid can lead to suicide, but i don't want her to keep doing it, what do i say? "don't cut to deep, and always keep a towel and phone handy"? please help me

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    13 years ago

    It's substituting one pain for another.

    Basically, there is pain you cannot control and pain you can control.

    However, the danger is that it could lead to mutilation or damage you cannot fix.

    If you can address the pains that you cannot control that might be a start.

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  • poon_jabber
    9 years ago

    yeah I'm cut, why do you want an uncut man, u like smeg?

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  • Elli
    11 years ago

    DON'T LET HER CUT HERSELF! I WOULD SLAP MY BEST FRIEND IF HE DID THAT! I WOULD BE VERY ANGRY AND MAD AT WHY HE WOULD DO THAT. WHY WOULD YOU LET HER DO THAT?! I WOULD BE SAD, TOO. DON'T LET HER DO THAT! I'm not telling you to slap her BTW, just do something about it. Show her what you posted on here. ^_^ GL (Good Luck) :) Take care :)

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  • Johnsonj006
    11 years ago

    When I was in the 6th grade... My best friend cut herself. I saw scars on her. She denied it. I said listen I'm not dumb I know what you are doing. I forced her to stop. Letting your so called "best friend" cut themselves is ridiculous. You must want them dead. You never know how far they'll take it. Maybe one day instead of cutting her wrist shes cut her throat. You need to think about this and get her help. It's really serious.

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  • Krysisbliss10
    13 years ago

    I've been throught this, except I was the one cutting. My girlfriend was scared shitless. I couldn't help it. The adrenaline rush was just amazing to me. Tell her to try popping a rubber band on the inside if her wrist. That helped me slow down a lot. Or (if she smokes) pack a new pack of cigarettes on the inside of her forearm. That helps too.

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  • Danielle456
    14 years ago

    tell someone get a therapist to talk to her

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  • mtnw
    14 years ago

    girls cut because somehow it ends up making them feel better, but, normal girls don't cut. i don't know ages here, but this kid needs some help from someone who can provide it, and i am thinking professional. where are her parents in all of this? if it's winter, and she's hiding her cutting with long sleeves and pants, it will finally warm up and someone's apt to notice she's still all covered up.

    if you don't get any advice here that makes sence to you, or seems to work for you, have you considered going to an adult that you feel is the responsible type and can somehow help your friend? more than likely, if her parents don't know, or aren't doing anything to help her, then someone should get involved.

    some kids are always exploding, using extremes when they talk, such as "why do you hate me", so it's hard to ever "talk" to a person when they act like that. professionals do know how to talk to people in that state of mind, which is why i suggested it.

    don't try to fix this yourself, because, you will find, none of us can fix each other.

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  • insanegreywolf
    14 years ago

    I would prefer that you tried to convince her not to, but it is normal, yes.

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago

    tell her to beat up her pillow omfg

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  • smileytea
    14 years ago

    Firstly acknowledging that it is your friends choice to cut, will help you understand that none of her behaviour is your fault.If shes at this stage, I suggest that you act quickly, to help your friend stay alive.Go and talk to someone that you trust and let them know whats happening , so that you have support through this tough time.Let your friend know that she is making this choice to cut, but ask her if she wants help to stop.If so, Some how, work together to talk with your friends family/friends,so you can get more support for your friend.Most importantly talk to your friend and let her know how much she means to you. Show her by cleaning and dressing the wounds, she is creating, that you want her to live. No lectures about the rights and wrongs of what she is doing.Plan to do things together that are fun to distract from the bad stuff going on.Hug her often, to show you care.There are counselors out there who can help too.You are not alone.There are other people out there, who have gone through what you have both been through.So they know, where you are at.Go Get help as soon as possible.

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  • ComboBreaker
    14 years ago

    She's in the "routine" of cutting now. This could make it hard to get her to stop. If she gets the idea you hate her by telling her not to cut, that would be pritty silly. It meens you care about her. You should both go on the internet oneday and look for lists of alternative things to do other than SI. Ice, rubber bands and another thirty things. You might both want to try and help each other with depression (getting out of it). Maby you could both go see a counsler. If she dosnt want to be alone you can sit in with her. They are fully confidential and are very very helpful. The worst thing you could do is ignore this. Good luck and keep trying.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Emo!!!

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