Is it normal to leave a long term relationship without cause?

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I have a good life. I live in a nice house, in a nice neighborhood. I am financially secure. I have been married for 15 years. My family is the best thing that has ever happened to me in my life. My wife and children love me unconditionally. For the past year I have been having these obsessive thoughts and feelings about running away to parts unknown. I just feel like putting my finances in order, grabbing a plane ticket, and rolling out. There is no reason I can think of: my wife is faithful, my children are great. I can't even explain it to myself. I have found myself more and more thinking of ways to get out of my current life and starting another. Is this normal? Am I a big scumbag for feeling/thinking this way? Should I just go for it and let the chips fall where they may? Is it normal for me to just feel absolutely disgusted with myself for even thinking/feeling this way?

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Based on 46 votes (25 yes)
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  • ordhurtz
    12 years ago

    Mid life crisis?

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  • Inspector019
    12 years ago

    Perhaps you should seek professional advice on this matter. This can happen to people sometimes. It could be a variety of things that cause one to feel this way (chemical imbalance, depression, boredom etc). If your rational mind can't find anything wrong with your situation, seems like it might not be so wise just to take off and abandon those you love (and that love you) for some wild notion that has no rational factor. Just a thought. Best of luck figuring it out.

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  • bigtoy
    12 years ago

    Loads of people go through this. Go for a week away with a friend and you'll miss your family and get it out of your system.

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  • happymamaa
    12 years ago

    I agree with the above ^^^ you need to really think this thru. If you were to just up and leave your family, do you think they would take you back once you realized the grass isn't any greener on the other side? It sounds like you just need a nice vacation. Plan a trip for you AND your wife, get out of the state, country, whatever you decide and enjoy yourself. But don't just up and leave your life, you will wind up regretting it and then they may not be there for you. Good luck.

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  • la_uva_mojada
    11 years ago

    Paranoia will destroy ya!

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  • la_uva_mojada
    11 years ago

    I love lying on the bed being eaten while I watch family feud.

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  • theaverageatheist
    11 years ago

    done it

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  • Tenorsax69er
    12 years ago

    You need some excitement, something different from the norm. I think you're just bored. I second the idea of getting out of the country for a week. Maybe even two. Explore and learn. Go hiking or white water rafting. As u already mentioned, you're already financially secure....

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  • Treez
    12 years ago

    Go for it!!!

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  • spongerobert
    12 years ago

    Yeh it's normal. That's why so many middle aged men have affairs. You need some stimulation. Find a hobby. Quit your job and do something you love. Take your family on an exciting world tour. Your family won't take you back if you run off.

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  • NothingxCrazy
    12 years ago

    I go through this a lot but my relationships aren't THAT long. Every few months with whoever I'm dating I get a, "what if" feeling and I used to start to explore other possibilities only to find in the end that I screwed up what I have for something that I might not be able to get.

    Needless to say I was young and careless before. I'd like to think I've changed and I will no longer act on those feelings because they normally pass with time.

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