Is it normal to lay awake thinking about this?

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My ex cheated on me the entire time we were together, defended his actions when I broke up with him and never apologized, and now a week later has a new girlfriend that he's saying "I love you" to and other sickening cutesy stuff on every public thing you could possibly post on. It enrages me to no end and I'm having a hard time getting over it, and the only thing that calms me down significantly is laying awake and thinking of all the ways he might have a freak accident and get killed/crippled. Is it normal to be soothed to sleep by such evil thoughts?

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  • emilydoll
    12 years ago

    You have to get over this loser he doesn't deserve you.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I assume he's declaring his love for this other girl, and not you. Just console yourself that you know he's full of shit and some other poor sucker is falling for his lies.

    I recently heard the strangest thing.
    A lady I met divorced a bigamist but she had children to him. He later re-married, but met his ex wife and kids visiting his mother. He hissed at his ex, don't you tell my new wife I'm still married to the other woman. "Oh no," she said, "let her learn the hard way what you're really like! I'm not going to make her life easy!"

    This was strange to me, but you can laugh by thinking you have the same attitude.

    I'm sorry he was such a rotten pig to you and I hope you find someone worthy of you soon!

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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    I was in a relationship and was cheated on for the entirity of it. I felt such anger but I didn't want to focus it on her. I picked an inanimate item of hers and focussed on that. I chose her mini-fridge. I still can't stand them. For no rational reason. It kind of helped, though.

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  • MissClaire
    12 years ago

    I have an honest question to ask you: Did you know she was cheating the entire time you were dating? If you did, (and you only know the truth here), you let her get away with it - some women sense that low confidence and take advantage of it. You cant put up with that shit - you dont deserve it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      I'm a woman, and it was a guy cheating on me. I did not know that he was doing any physical cheating- I found out he was talking to his ex a few times, and we'd have fights about it and break up but I always came back because to my knowledge, he hadn't actually DONE anything yet. All the suspicion led me to finally look through his phone and emails- and there it was, all the proof I was so afraid to see but needed to. I was shocked he had it in his phone, just so out in the open...as if he wanted to be found out. Maybe he did.

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      • MissClaire
        12 years ago

        WOW, I completely understand you being scared to see what you thought you needed to see. I'm so glad you did. I hope your happier now. Maybe he was taking advantage of your good nature - maybe he is one of those guys (people really) who is afraid to be alone but wants multiple relationships to make him satisfy his ego (well he cant have both!). He probably regrets his decision as you seem like a good natured person. I wonder why he couldnt get over his ex, I mean, its his ex right, strange.
        I think its normal to have these thoughts as the whole situation hits your stomach pretty hard, that terrible sick feeling. Maybe your mad that he has this after affect on you?
        Well, I wish you only the very best! As for him, try to forget about him ;) I know its hard, but dont let him control you like this...

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        • [Old Memory]
          12 years ago

          Yeah, and the funny thing is that it was the ex that he complained treated him so badly. When, come to think of it....that's a GOOD thing! =D They deserve eachother.

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          • MissClaire
            12 years ago

            they do, they are perfect for eachother :) thats the best revenge lol

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Wow. At least you know for sure he's a bumhole and made the right choice. You should be glad your not that other girl. Thank God he blew it. Thank God you dodged a bullet ;)

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  • bigtoy
    12 years ago

    Why worry? You know he'll do the same to her. She's the loser - you are now free to find someone who will respect you. Like the other poster said: let her find out the hard way. Just sit back and enjoy the show even though you know how it will end. He's no loss to you!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      thank you. that really made me feel better! =D

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      • bigtoy
        12 years ago

        I'm so pleased you feel better. Just keep thinking on what I said and you'll be fine! Get out and put yourself in the way of opportunity and you'll soon meet someone else much better.

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  • emilydoll
    12 years ago

    You should feel sorry for him and pay him no mind I know it's hard but he's not worth thinking about he's a pig.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago

      Thanks girls, I know he doesn't deserve me and I usually have a hard time letting go of any incident where I was wronged for no apparent reason. I guess most women have gone through this situation though.

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