Is it normal to last too long in bed?

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My girlfriend and I have sex regularly. I have a long list of fetishes and turn-ons and she does her best to fulfill every single one of them (anal, bondage, costumes, role-play, blow jobs, panty play etc), but despite our collective efforts I have a hard time reaching climax most of the time. It can be a little frustrating because more often than not we usually end our sessions with me masturbating while she watches me and plays with herself (she LOVES watching me masturbate, so there's at least a silver lining). The sex is great, and she satisfies me in every way I could hope for, but I just can't get there without resorting to the ol' hand. There were a few times I managed to reach orgasm during anal; the best orgasms I've ever had, by the way. I just wish I could get that every time, lol.

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  • davesumba
    11 years ago

    stop watching porn and ejaculating so often.

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    • MisterPapaya
      11 years ago

      I actually tried giving up masturbating for 1week to see if would help. I even watched porn and stayed decently horny that whole week, hoping that come sex time I'd just explode. Didn't help :S

      It changes though, like I said I can reach orgasm during sex, but not that often. The good part is that my girlfriend is very orgasmic and in trying to make me cum we usually get her to orgasm about 4 - 8 times per session :)

      I'm happy just making her happy, but I feel as though sometimes she may feel like she's not fulfilling me, which is totally wrong; I love everything she does for me, especially anal.

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    • quentari
      11 years ago

      ^ actually that may help, if that's why he's taking so long in the first place

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    Sounds like you've sexually accustomed yourself by masturbating to tight. I'm not sure how old you are, but you may be able to reverse it. I came to this conclusion cause assholes are really tight btw..atleast tighter than vaginas.. in case you were wondering. If when you masturbate you try using lube and a looser grasp, you may be able to get used to the feeling of a vagin and cum that way in the future. Have you also tried not ejaculating for a while and getting super horny, then having sex? It could cause you to become more sensitive and it could work. Worth a shot maybe? Up to you, anyways good luck.

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    • MisterPapaya
      11 years ago

      Lol yes I'm quite aware that assholes are tighter than vaginas :P but you may have a point. I do enjoy a nice tight grip when I masturbate so that might have something with it. I will try your suggestion with the loose grip and lube. I did already try not ejaculating for a long time while staying nice and horny (it's torture by the way) but it didn't really help when it came to the actual sex.

      Oh, and to answer your question, I'm 29.

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      • ccjigsaw
        11 years ago

        I was just saying I didn't randomly jump to the conclusion that you grip to hard when masturbate lol It's actually a common issue for men. I heared from my Sex-Ed teacher back in high school. She called it the "death grip" and told all the guys in the class to avoid doing that lol Hopefully that helps a bit. I feel like at 29, your body is probably already pretty accustomed to it, but who knows. It could still help. Good luck!

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