Is it normal to know nothing about sex?

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I know nothing about sex. In the past year, I have looked information up online out of curiosity and plain old teenage angst - who am I? Gender, sexuality, and all that jazz are foreign worlds to me. My parents never talked about it.
I have never masturbated. I don't even know how I would try, or whether it is wrong or something. At the same time as all of this, I am trying to figure out my faith, and that comes with all sorts of guilt associations.
When I read about sexual stuff, I get a super uncomfortable feeling in my vagina. If this is horny, it sucks.
I have never had a boyfriend (or girlfriend, for that matter) and I have no idea which sex I would be sexually attracted to.
I mean, I would love to have a boyfriend, if only for the social connotations.
I love people - a lot, and I have no idea how to distinguish between having a crush on people and just wanting to be their best friend.
I don't think I've ever been "turned on" by somebody. Am I asexual?
I have read from multiple sources to "just try masturbating" or "look at some porn" to figure this all out, but I just can't bring myself to do it.
Is it normal to be so in the dark about all of this? After searching online extensively, I found that it is normal to be sexually active, but is the other also true? To be completely in the dark, wanting to experiment for the sake of experimentation?

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  • BHolt
    11 years ago

    Yet another example of how religion f**ks people up on a psychological level. Seriously OP, I understand that you have a faith, but if it is part of your religion that sex is "dirty" and you should feel dirty for thinking about it, I hate to say it but: YOUR RELIGION IS WRONG.

    Humans are sexual animals. We NEED sex for our species to survive, being sexual is hard-wired in our brains, religion goes against it. THAT is why you feel uncomfortable in your vagina when reading about sex: it's not sex that is making you feel uncomfortable, but that your faith and related upbringing is conflicting with your natural urges.

    It will take time, and practise, but you can overcome this and embrace your sexuality like the rest of us. But you will have to let go of some parts of your faith to do this... SEX IS NOT A SIN. Sex is the spark of life! It is the fire that drives our civilization.

    While this is a good site, you will get much better support on Reddit. Two sub-reddits I recommend: r/Sex (http://www.reddit.com/r/sex) and r/Teenagers (http://www.reddit.com/r/teenagers)

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  • quentari
    11 years ago

    If you don't want to masturbate or look at porn because it makes you uncomfortable then it wouldn't give you an accurate response anyway. The feeling in your vagina is quite possibly arousal, and it can sometimes be uncomfortable if you don't know what to do with it.

    Being in the dark about sexual things, especially since you seem to have been brought up in a fairly religious home, is quite normal. (I know there are religious families that actually educate their kids, but others leave them completely in the dark)

    Just continue your research, at your own pace. Don't feel guilty just for educating yourself on the matter.

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  • girl2
    11 years ago

    Sorry, I am eighteen.

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    • q25t
      11 years ago

      That's ok. I don't think your situation is anywhere near the norm, but that's not to say there's anything bad about it.

      Honestly, I'm not entirely sure how people do come across all the knowledge of sex and sexuality that they seem to have. Society seems to be obsessed with sex but not actually talk at all about the details.

      By the way, if you are considering trying masturabting, I recently heard that what's shown in porn apparently couldn't be farther wrong so try to get advice on how from another source.

      Unfortunately, I'm both a guy and a virgin, so I'm utterly unqualified to offer any advice in this respect.

      To your last question as to whether it's normal to not be sexually active, that is a resounding yes. The media portrays young people as pretty much sex driven hormonal people, and while this is true for some people, there are a lot of people that don't fit this at all.

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  • q25t
    11 years ago

    Age is rather critical in this post.

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  • Energy
    11 years ago

    I suggest just taking your time with it. Don't rush it. Don't force yourself on it. Let it come to you.

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