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Me & my girlfriend were together for 8 months and I still have all of the letters she wrote me. Should i throw them away & move on..?
I still have all the romantic cards my ex sent me in 1976, a year before we were married. She filed for divorce in 1980. On one of the Valentines I saved she had handwritten the Beatles line: "Will you still need me, will you still feed me when I'm sixty-four."
She's sixty six now, a recent widow in the southeast US.
I'm thinking of sending it back to her with a snarky note. Can you suggest a suitable retort?
BTW:
I never forget a betrayal or give up on collecting a debt?
Does that make me a bad person or a psychological sicko?
Say this I love you I alwayse will and I don't care if your 64 or 84 I will be there for you from hope you remember
It makes you stuck in the past and not truly living your life to the fullest. A life of regret and is a life never lived.
Keep them close to your heart. Your gonna need them when the unsuspecting are dragged to their graves and your standing on the edge holding a rose
I burnt everything from old relationships from pictures to letters it feels better then fucking sex
Its normal to keep them. Burnig them might help you get over it, but, you'll still get over it eventually one day (without burning them) and when that day comes, it's gonna be cool to sometime read them when you're older, after all, its a part of you.
I keep mine (away from any new girl to see them... you know, girls sometimes get creepy with some things
I have all mine. Why not? These people meant something in my life. I would never destroy them for a new girlfriend. If it doesn't work out with her, I've lost her plus my history.
My longest relationship was with someone who was monumentally clumsy. When she went back to her home country for a bit we decided to write as well as email because receiving a letter is a bit of a thrill. Also, each of the letters were stained with something she'd spilled on it (usually orange juice). You don't get that with email.
I still have a piece of paper with her handwriting on it, back from when she was in love with me, with the pressure on the paper by the pen made by her very body, this girl I was in love with too, and the orange blotch of American juice made by one of her many, many spazz outs, the like of which had me once witness her spilling three separate things at the same time.
If not for the letters, I'd have forgotten this. Don't destroy yours. You'll thank me one day.
And you're a guy? Well, you sure are in touch with your feminine side, which for some women is great i guess, but i don't agree with keeping letters. Yes that person meant something to you once upon a time and it was great while it lasted.
I threw away my first love's letters and emails i had printed off a while back. I have been with my second partner for nearly 3 years now. Will you really sit around, even with your current partner and read your ex's love letters?. I mean what comfort would an ex's love letter bring? You may ask, oh its memories. But of what? All those letters have engraved in them are 'i love you's/i will never let you go/ you mean the world to me/ you're the one' what comfort is that?. Will you and ur future gf sit down together and reach your ex's love letters to each other?lol?
If you're never going to read them or aknowledge their presence, its pointless. I personally think, one who hold on to love letters is one who unconsciously thinks that something may happen between the two of them again in the future and does not want to let the old memories go and once they get together AGAIN they can show them that they never let them go. I say this because me included, did think a few weeks into my relationship with my current bf and as did my bf thought with this first love, think that maybe in the future me and my ex were going to maybe get together. My bf had a box of all of his first loves love letters and stuff, and after her he had many more other gf's before meeting me and he never kept their stuff apart from his first loves. And i asked him why he kept her stuff and he gave me the same response. That maybe one day something was going to happen (since they still remained in touch). But then once we hit out 1 year anniversary he threw them away, not because i asked him but because he let her go i guess. I hate admitting it that after so many years (6 years of being split up) she still had that spot in him but now i have that spot and I know i do,I cant explain it, you just know and feel it i guess, especially after going through some hard times together.
Don't hold on to the past. You had a great time, it has been burned into your brain of all the great memories and leave it there.
I'm a guy, yeah. But I think you're judging me by your own experiences. I do keep the letters because it meant something, but it doesn't mean I want to go back or have another chance at the past. I very much don't. People are in the past for a reason. The letters remind me of the good, but also the bad. If anything, they'd keep me centred rather than be overly sentimental (which I may be without the letters).
There's another reason too. I guess, because I'm not married and am not liable to be married any time soon, they're a legacy. When I did my family tree, those men who are the end of a family line, it raises inevitable questions about them either being gay, or hopeless with women or having some sort of deformity. None of that would matter, but it isn't true in my case. I guess I'd be pleased if my family had a chance to know me how I am. See who I chose to be with and that I was in love. I suppose I like the idea of someone a century from now seeing the photographs and the letters and smiling.