Is it normal to keep sexual fantasies from your boyfriend?

Me and my boyfriend have a great sexual relationship. We've shared what we like and what turns us on. We like to try new things and we're both pretty open minded. But. I feel like I've been overly sexual from a young age and I have some fantasies I don't want to share with my boyfriend. I have fantasize about being raped, abused, forcibly impregnated, being very young with older men...I've had these fatasies for a long time. I've never shared them with anyone. I'm really embarrassed by them and I don't really want to act them out with my boyfriend because I think he'll be really turned off and weirded out. I've only expressed to him that I like sex to be a little rougher sometimes. He's tied me up before and slapped and spanked me. I've said I like him to be more dominant and he's ok with that. He's not an overly dominant person by nature. I guess I just want to know if there are other people that have sexual fantasies they keep from their partners and if it's normal.

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Based on 17 votes (15 yes)
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  • tondilejo

    It could hurt your boyfriend to tell him, or it could open up a whole new world and make your sex life better.
    If it hurts him, he could start asking you every time after sex, what you thought about. And it could hurt him everytime, and it could ruin your relationship.(this has happened to me).
    It's risky business. I think many just keep their fantasies silently in their mind to avoid trouble and questions. If you are satisfied, why not keep on going like this. If you feel you need more, gamble.

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  • jimdog

    Ive got a few turn ons i dont share with my other half. I think its normal. Would love to tell her and act on them but like u said im embarassed. Lol

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  • chewy

    i suggest roleplay

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  • Legion

    Your just afraid that he might see you as crazy or something like that. just talk it over, maybe he will enjoy the ideas.

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  • 8Serene8

    If you can trust him and he loves and trusts you then whatever your fantasy is shouldn't horribly upset him. For all you know he has crazy fantasies too. This is why couples shouldn't keep things from eachother. The more open you are about everything with eachother the better you can trust one another and be closer than ever.

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