Is it normal to keep it secret

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I am almost 20 and have been with my boyfriend for about 2 years. We have kept it a secret this long from my parents because we are 7 years apart (he just turned 27 I am 19). We are very much in love. When I told my parents about him when I was 17 they threatened to call the cops etc because he was so much older than me (25 at the time). So we held off on dating until I was 18. We still haven't told my parents about us, but his know and love me, all our friends know about us. I feel really bad for hiding such a huge part of my life from them but I just really don't want their negative opinions and for them to shun me. I am in college, have my own place, we are very happy together. My parents and I are wonderful. I am just worried this will ruin the relationship I have with them, even tho I am on my own and left the nest so to speak. And advice? I'd love to keep things how they r but I know it will hurt my folks if I keep it from them much longer. 2 years already is quite a long time.

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  • RuLisnyn2Me?
    13 years ago

    U want some advice ok here it goes are you listening?
    You have to appreciate the concern of your parents 2 years ago that here is this guy 25 years old a grown man with our oh so precious and innocent (lol) little girl!! What more than sex could he possibly want?
    Ok so fast forward 2 years Nd as you have said you are now all grown up and flown the coop a "BIG GIRL" if you love your parents and believe that they trust you and believe in your independence and choices you would bring it to their attention what kind of person he is and how he makes you feel as a WOMAN!! he is a huge part of your life and loves you supports you and give you confidence and his intentions are truly real and genuine!!! You will need to eAse their concerns but reassure them that he has been by your side and never wandered nor treated you badly
    There is no doubt they will be mad but if they truly love you as they should they will see that their precious little girl isn't a little girl anymore and she is happy and if all things go well they will support you but it will take some time!! If you value this relationship you need to stand up for it but also give your parents the respect they deserve as well

    It's for the best in your life Nd your future relationship with your parents!!
    Good luck let me know how it goes :)

    Ps bill is in the mail ;)

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  • americanhoney
    13 years ago

    Nope. Not normal. Thus, I have no advice.

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  • smexybeast
    13 years ago

    if u luv each other it doezn't matter bout age. My mum n dad are 6 yearz apart but it doezn't make a difference to them, try n tell them that a lot of marriages tend to b like this n no matter wat they think u luv him n it wud hurt u to b without him. Good luck

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  • philimpactoates
    13 years ago

    You are in love, it doesn't matter what anyone says. plus if you keep it secret it adds an aspect of cuteness how you're always trying to hide it

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  • Lockets
    13 years ago

    The age gap is not big at all. If you had beed together since you were 9 and 17, sure, that would be a problem but you are both adults and have been since you got together officially.
    If you are in love with eachother, I realy don't see a problem with you telling your parents.

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  • maddie123
    13 years ago

    Thanks :) But I talked to my parent this evening about possibly moving back for the summer (3 months only) because I was offered a better position at the place I worked at last summer for this coming summer, and they said sure but the same rules still apply that I had when I was in high school and that apply to my 15 year old brother right now so that we r treated fairly...like I said I am almost 20 and am a full time college student, I work nights, have my own place, get good grades, have never done anything bad haha. I dont think any thing will help me reassure them of how well he treats me, how much we love each other, they will always resent him because it's their way or no way. I can't change their minds on anything or even prove I am a young adult. I know they want what's best but I honestly don't think anything I say could make them respect me. And I obviously choose my bf because I'd rather spend the rest of my life with him living it my way, then with it being all their choice.

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  • Sabaky
    13 years ago

    Just tell him to meet your parents and when they are comfortable with him tell them.

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