Is it normal to justify relationships?

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Main Question: Is it normal to make sure you are gaining something from every relationship you have? To what extent?

Growing up, I was in an apocalyptic cult. We didn't live underground or anything, but we did meet several times a week and people went into debt because of it. This lasted from when I was 9-14. The cult eventually split up and people that had been like family never spoke to me again.

Now, years later, I find myself justifying every relationship I have. I constantly ask myself if I'm being logical and making sure I am gaining something (however small) from the relationship. If the person shows any signs of leaving, I cut all ties.

Having said that, the friends I do have I love very much. I would do absolutely anything for them without question.

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  • Forestheart
    8 years ago

    Philosophically speaking... there's a lot to be gained from every relationship, but you can't measure this with simple math like that. If you only seek profit in every relationship you'll never be able to conduct an honest relationship with anyone.

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    • LittleGirlBrutallySodomized
      8 years ago

      Every relationship there has to be a give and take that goes both ways otherwise it won't work.

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  • Shannn
    8 years ago

    Maybe there's a lack of trust here? Because these people never spoke to you again, you may be afraid of this happening again. It is normal to expect a little of something from each relationship. It's all about give and take.

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