Is it normal to irrationally hate my mother?

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I am 21 years old, I live with my mom, adopted dad and two, younger, half-siblings. My family is full of introverts, except for my sister who is an extroverted introvert.
I have always felt like my mom emotionally manipulates me and tries to control my life so that I live the way that she thinks is best. However I'm also a quiet person and I like to appease people, so I'm a rule-follower and a goody two-shoes.
When my mom and I have "conversations" she takes the reigns and makes points that she justifies with evidence, that she sometimes skews, but she only has to do so slightly. She could have been a lawyer if she wanted.
She forces me to go to church in order to live here, saying that it's normal because it's just a requirement and I'll have requirements of my children someday. I'm agnostic, even though I was raised Christian, I don't believe in God, and the entirety of Christianity is really fucked up.
I get lectured about spending all of my time in my room because they're "concerned for me".
I was going to try to move in with my boyfriend this month, and my mother talked me out of it, twice, because she thinks that I'm not ready to take care of myself and that I'm only doing it to be stubborn.
This woman kicked me down a flight a stairs after she told me Santa wasn't real when I was 8, and I started crying. She also constantly made fun of my eating habits, and would call me a pig and oink at me, but she denies ever doing these things.
She also told me that someone told her I need psychotherapy because I'm always mad at her, but she won't tell me who, only that she agrees and she doesn't deserve for me to not like her.

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  • I_Hate_My_Life123
    8 years ago

    Remember, family is temporary. You won't have to live with your mother forever, hell, she'll even die one day.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    By now one of you mother hating IIN users must have started a "I hate my mother" web site. Why don't you go post this crap there, because it is sincerely getting old.
    Not one of you mother haters has the slightest idea of the difficulty of being a parent, especially to some thankless spoiled shit of a child.

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    • starshooter
      8 years ago

      Additionally. If you were able you could ask anyone in my family's history, my siblings and I are some of the most well-behaved, polite, humble and kind people you will ever meet, and have been since we were children, because of how my parents raised us. We have always worked for what we have, never taken more than we need and always considered others before ourselves. I am not spoiled and I would appreciate it if you would not assume such things about fellow users in the future. A lot of emotion goes into a post like this, which does make it biased and likely gives it a skewed perspective. Again, thank you for your comment.

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    • starshooter
      8 years ago

      Thank you for your comment. I posted this because I suspected it was not normal. I was looking around to see if there were other people with a similar problem and how they solved it. My mother is a wonderful woman and I have no reason to hate her. I've recently found out that I am an emotionally intense person with little emotional regulation skills, and have been able to take therapy to dig up and rid myself of some of the resentment that I harbored for my mother. We are now growing closer.
      Again thank you so much for this hepful and loving comment and I hope you have a wonderful day. :)

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