Is it normal to inform my fiance that i hate sex with him?

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ok i have been with my man for 3 years, he used to be 400+ pounds before we were together and had gastric bypass and lost alot of weight, when we met he was around 240, i was very attracted to his size ,6'6", and he is very hadsome.I mayself am not a small girl, 5'2" and around 190. He likes my size and my big booty. when we first started having sex i was fine, i didnt like the loose skin that hung but i was able to over look it, thru the years he has been incredible to me. I was in a bad accident and he has been there for me through many surgerys. He treats me like gold and loves my daughter as well, i literally couldnt ask for a better man to love me and my child. Lately i have noticed him putting on quit a bit of weight, i havent said anything because i yo yo all the time, up 10 pounds, and down 10 pounds but i would have to say he is close to 300 if not over and the loose skin that used to hang is now filled in with fat. He now has full blown man boobs, bigger than mine to be truthful. and the worst part is during sex he always wants me to play with his nipples! now that really grosses me out and i dont know how to tell him. i try all the time to get him to look or touch mine, but he wont, he wants his played with. how do i tell him that his man boobs gross me out and sex is no longer appealing to me because of his weight gain and hanging, flapping man boobs?!
I want to be with this man, and i dont want to hurt him, but im not enjoying sex with him at all.

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  • HopefullyNormal?
    13 years ago

    latoriam32 had a good suggestion- do a 'health thing' together. Just tell him you think you guys should both get 'healthier', don't bring up the weight loss issue right away. I know it might be hard, but believe me, sex is sooo important in a relationship so you are going to have to be open with what you do and don't like and how and how much, and remember- he is being honest with you and you're not happy. You giving him a small criticism is not bad- getting your partner to play with your nipples when she doesn't want to is REALLY unfair. if the guy loves you, he'll want to make you happy. Criticism could be a blessing in disguise for the two of you

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  • latoriam32
    13 years ago

    I think you should tell him how you feel in a delicate manner, and suggest that together you two go on an exercise/diet plan therefore it will be something you can do together. That's what my husband and I are doing together.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    You two should be force into a fat camp

    Disgusting story thanks !

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  • aduusw
    13 years ago

    Tell him that you love him, that he is the man of your life... But that you are feeling less attracted to him because of his weight and that he should try loosing weight... And that you don't like playing with his "boobs", that a turn off but... That there are other parts that you do enjoy playing with... Tell him the bad things but also the good ones!

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