Is it normal to implement is it normal advice and it work out?
I have been here for 3+ years and one pattern I see often are the questions asked by OP's who really just want someone to agree with them or say what they want to hear. I, however, ask questions here to possibly get some insightful if not brutal honesty and I took those responses to heart and have been having very good results in a relationship of mine.
Has anyone else experienced this?
The story:
http://isitnormal.com/poll/he-loves-me-he-loves-me-not-199094/
I thought about everything that was said to me and came to the conclusion that it only made sense that he would have feelings for me if he was willing to put up with the enormous amount of bullshit I was giving him. I admit, I followed the advice unintentionally. I ditched the other guy and was going to just break things off with this guy too to keep things from getting worse.
I told him that we shouldn't see each other because I don't feel we work out and that he has any feelings for me and he told me that I am distant and hard to read and he is afraid to upset me. I thought about a recent encounter with him before that instance where he spent about 10-20 minutes talking to me about his day, his feelings etc. and asked me how I've been and I just responded "fine". He asked me what I did recently and I said "just work and hanging out". He asked me how work was, "fine". How are my friends, "Fine ok why do you need to know all of this?". Looking back, I can see why he thought I didn't like him.
I ended up getting trashed and telling him that I love him and am only worried that he doesn't understand me or thinks I am lame. I meant every word even though I was drunk. Before this, he seemed like he was trying to distance himself from me and since telling him that it's like... wow. He treats me like we are together. He said he was just hoping I'd stop being upset with him and had no idea how I felt about him since I acted like I hated him. I feel dumb as hell but I'm really happy with the results anyway.