Is it normal to imagine a girl is my girlfriend, when she isn't?

Not any girls, but those whom I have begun flirtily texting, or going on dates with.

For instance, I have begun texting a girl whom I knew from High School and had a crush on then. We have a date planned soon, but I find myself spending lots of time looking at her facebook pictures. I will leave facebook tabs from her photo albums open for the entirety of my internet browsing sessions, clicking on it frequently to look at her pictures, over and over again and pretending/imagining she is already my girlfriend. This makes me happy to do, analyzing in detail each picture, how pretty she looks, and how nice it would be to date her.

What's worse, if I am particularly into them (as I am with this girl), I will have audible back and forths with myself of sorts, usually in the car, pretending I am talking with her in a boyfriend/girlfriend type conversation. I say back and forths because they aren't really long enough to be conversations. Sort of just audibly speaking small sentences, that almost are testing to see how it would sound if we were together. For example I may say "Hey [girls name], what are you doing baby?" as if we were on the phone. Almost just to hear how it would sound, to imagine what our conversations would be like.

All this and we have yet to go on a single date, even though we have texted a good bit.

So, is this completely stalkerish/creepy to mentally place a woman in a position as serious as a girlfriend when you haven't even gone on a date yet? Or is it normal to some extent to begin imagining/pretending a person of interest is already your girlfriend/boyfriend even if they aren't, or even close to it?

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76% Normal
Based on 74 votes (56 yes)
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  • GreatArt

    It's only natural when you make a connection with this person, it doesn't have to be physical. Guys are more protective anyhow.

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  • lolla

    I'd say it's quite normal, but having said that its not necessarily that healthy. I mean, having said that I kinda do it all the time with guys I like but if you get too caught up in your imagination you start having unrealistic expectations of them or how a situation might go and that tends to sometimes bring you down if things don't go how you imagine them to. So if you want to avoid that, I'd try to limit that kind of thinking so it doesn't get too much :)

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  • Narcs

    That's fucked up fellah. Getting waaay emotionally involved before you even go on a single date!

    What if she does a stupid little piggy laugh at dinner or, god forbid, doesn't like Nando's? Fuck that bitch! Only now, not only do you have to deal with the piggy woman sat opposite, you have the torment of breaking up with her in your mind!

    Although, of course, if you're imagining shit like this after a couple of texts, odds are you're a strange social hermit who will be grateful for any chance with a woman and won't turn potential affection away despite very obvious signs of retardation.

    Who the fuck doesn't like Nando's?!?

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  • Guitarist420

    As weird as you may think it sounds, I do the EXACT same thing. Maybe not the pictures thing but the imaginary conversations and stuff, almost convincing myself we are together.

    Funny I should find this post tonight, I spoke to a girl a little at work today who I've not really said more than 'hello' to before, found out a little about her online when i got home (flickr an stuff) and have convinced myself I'm falling for her <3 And have already imagined what it would be like if we were together, going out on dates and stuff, and we're barely even friends at all...

    So i'm saying yes, it's normal.

    Be careful though dude, try to live in reality, don't let it get carried away! I've been in this situation in the past where I really fell for this chick, basically didn't think it would ever happen so just kept it happily in my head - then when she started seeing this guy it literally hurt like a break up, now that's fucked up.

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  • BluntsRolled

    Don't obsess over this one girl, find a few more to txt cause when things don't work out, It won't hurt as bad.

    Good Luck.

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  • curiousd

    It sounds weird to say it to people, and my first instinct was to say that's not normal, but then I realized I do the same thing. It's not a big deal. I'm a girl and I have imaginary scenarios like that with guys I like. No harm in imagining things - I wouldn't worry about it.

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