Is it normal to i am in love with someone i've never met?

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I began speaking to a girl close to 3 years ago. We actually like each other so much its unreal. Last night I was so happy I couldn't sleep all because she sent me a simple message and said she loved me.
Anyways I'm 18 and shes 16, age doesn't bother us, the problem is she lives 350 miles away.
We cant meet for about another year(ish, I like her so much!
Its her birthday in a few weeks and I want to get her something but she wont let me :(
Is there anything we can do so we don't loose interest in each other, so we can keep that bond. (Non-Sexual Preferably)

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  • Collumi
    11 years ago

    I'll tell you something you won't want to hear. If you know someone only through online contact, most of them is hidden. Because you only get a small fraction of them, your mind fills in the rest. Since you cannot be in love with a fraction of a person, it follows that you are actually in love mostly with your concept of that person. When the concept and the reality finally collide, your heart will break on impact. Unfortunate but true. Seen it happen several times.

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    • ChunkXD
      11 years ago

      I understand your point but when youve been talking for 3 years for 3-4 sometimes 5 or 6 hours a day. You get to know that person. I know things she hasn't told her best friends.

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  • Leyla
    11 years ago

    I will tell you something : I had this problem too , then one day I met the boy I only knew from online contact and we are 3 years together now , in an absolutely normal relationship. He moved so we are living near each other and everything´s perfect.

    I know this is rather an exception than a rule but maybe you will have the same luck as me with this girl ;)

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  • Ashleyloohoo
    11 years ago

    Y'all should set aside nights where its just you two, do nothing else but talk to each other. My bf and I will do things like ask a ton of random questions just to get to know one another better. Maybe talk to her about the "dates" and see what she thinks about it and come up with ideas together :) and yeah getting her a present is a good idea!

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  • Ashleyloohoo
    11 years ago

    I am in this exact same situation. So glad I'm not the only one! The most important thing is to talk, as much as you can. Phone, skype, text, any way possible. Make time for each other, have "date" nights. Be creative and think of ways to keep the spark alive :) and never ever give up on what y'all have. it gets to be really hard sometimes, the whole not being together in person can kill you at times, it does me :/ but if you truly love each other it will all work out :) hope I helped!

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    • ChunkXD
      11 years ago

      I like your Idea of the "date" night, problem is. i understand she still has a life. I don't mind her kissing other guys because we haven't met and I know that's all that will happen. She's changed her mind about me getting her something so I guess its something to keep us going :D

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