Is it normal to hurt over strippers at bachelor party before marriage?

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been w fiancé 6 years. He has hosted bachelor parties before we met with strippers and they did do sexual things to men and him. It pains me so much to know he will marry me but this "tradition" of a night of possible secrets he will get to have. Why is this a thing? I feel it's extremely hurtful and disrespectful. It's the last stress a bride needs to carry. I can't be the person who says he isn't allowed. I asked him what he thought of partying with friends all together, he said it's not up to him it's up to groomsmen. I felt it a cop out. Is it normal to have such strong feelings about this ? To the point of not making wedding plans ?

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  • JD777
    9 years ago

    A bachelor or bachelorette party IS NOT an excuse to cheat for anyone in attendance. Bachelor party with a stripper - not unusual. Bachelor party where the groom-to-be does any kind of sex act with the stripper - is unusual. I've known plenty of brides-to-be who said "no strippers allowed" or who put clear rules on what the stripper and groom-to-be can do. Don't be afraid to talk directly to the best man, whose job it is to plan and carry out the party.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    He sounds like an entitled, selfish bastard.

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  • JD777
    9 years ago

    Years ago, my friend (the groom) told his bride-to-be he thought there would be strippers at his bachelor's party. She called the best man's wife and told her. The best man's wife told her hubby that there were to be no strippers and then proceeded to tell a few of the other guy's wives/gfs, including mine. And they told other wives/gfs. Pretty soon almost all of us had been "given the talk." We ended up having a great party (no strippers) and none of us had to get killed when we got home.

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  • theseeker
    9 years ago

    Strippers? They sound more like prostitutes if they did "sexual things." Most bachelor parties do include strippers, which I see nothing wrong with. Doing sexual things is crossing the line and you have every right to be upset.

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  • stopandthink
    9 years ago

    Strippers? Right before the wedding as well? Shit, you're right OP that is disrespectful.
    Personally, I'm a guy and wouldn't even want anything like that on my bachelor's party.

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