Is it normal to have zero friends ? and what do i do?

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I've always been kind of a loner. I had friends when I was little because nothing mattered then. When I moved onto high school I had friends but I was quiet and bullied so I stayed in my shell. I don't think I really clicked with anyone from school much so I dumped them all when I left (big mistake) and went to a college I thought great I can make friends who want to be what I want to be. It didnt happen, I don't know why but I was just to shy and I did try and talk but I just went into my shell again. I do have slight social anxiety I say slight because I've always been shy.
Anyway I have one friend from school now... Who I meet up with. I made a friend at a local pool and another old friend got in touch again, and I go out with my cousin and her friends but it just doesn't feel like enough.
I feel I need a good friend just me and her a best friend all the best friends I hve had have moved away. I've tried courses and they all shut down or they're things I don't like since my family push me to try some things, but I just don't know how to talk to people even strangers at the gym just a simple hello it's very hard but it would be good practise for me and it might even lead to friendship but how do I do it?
I just always feel alone. Idk if I'll ever be able to make friends or if I'm this way for a reason. And don't even get me started on boyfriends zero. I've had zero. I'm 21, and I have a remote job and area. And changing job isn't an option :(
Don't really know what my question is, just need advice please :( I'm so worried what my parents and other people think!

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  • Darkoil
    8 years ago

    The gym is a great way to make friends. You just have to strike up a conversation, like ask for advice or whatever and go from there.

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  • hokisgurl
    8 years ago

    Im in the same boat . Im 26 married and have a kid . Work on getting friends before you settle down.

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  • Forestheart
    8 years ago

    When a stranger approaches someone with a friendly attitude subconsciously they warm up to them. Same goes for you, if you approach a stranger or a classmate with a confident and friendly attitude he or she will probably welcome your company. You just have to do it the first time, second time won't be as awkward. For once just swallow your shyness and go for it.

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