Is it normal to have your mom and older sister fist fight

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I'm a young teenage girl, and my mom and older sister who is 17 always fight. Today they got into another fist fight and wrestled and I don't know if normal families do this and stuff. My mom slammed her phone and the ground and it broke, my sister told her to rot in hell, they scream at eachother, my sister cries hysterically, and says she's going to kill herself. Please tell me if this is normal. I'm tired of being the family counselor because after they both come to me and tell me how horrible eachother is and I'm really tired of it. Then I have to try and talk my sister out of killing herself. It isn't fair to me and I don't know if other families go through this too.

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  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    I've been my family therapist all my life. It wasn't fair or right but I supported them in way like they have me, and I'm a better person for it. If it gets serious I would try to get some outside help and it does help to talk to others about it if your comfortable.

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  • Freedom_
    8 years ago

    It was normal for my family. If it wasn't too violent I'd just go sit somewhere and work on my homework and let each of them vent to me later, separately and talk to them about not letting the other get to them. Then eventually they wanted to come to a consensus on who started the fights so I started paying attention more... The answer was usually both of them. They just clashed and both felt like they needed the last word so that kept it going. There's really no much you can do, you can try to put out the fire while it's still small if they will listen to you, but don't feel bad if they still keep it going... It's not your obligation, but your outsider's perspective might be able to give them some tips if they're willing to improve their relationship.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    It's not your job to sort out these moronic family members: your mother is an adult and your sister is nearly one.

    You seem too young to get out of this crap yet so in the meantime can you get some support from somewhere, maybe a school counsellor, and learn to detach from it?

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  • Shackleford96
    8 years ago

    I can relate, I used to get caught in the middle of fights between my older brother and my dad.

    The only thing I know to tell you is to bide your time until you can move out... I know that will probably be a (seemingly) very long time from now, but things will get better once that happens.

    Is there somewhere you can leave to while this is going on? A friend's house perhaps, or maybe just go for a walk?

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