Is it normal to have to force yourself to be happy

i always get depressing thoughts about a specific person and its been occurin for a year, is it normal that i constantly think about it and that i have to force myself to not think about it ( really hard) just so i wont be in a pissy mood or straight up sad lol just curious to know if its heathy

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  • Katywompus

    I have to give myself pep talks pretty often. Its better than dwelling on the nonsense :)

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    • 420johnk

      explain that? i always just force myself to be blank

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      • Katywompus

        What the?? I didn't get a notice for this. Anyway, I'm bipolar, I don't take any meds anymore. I just smoke a lil weed a few times a day to keep from getting too cranky or pissed off or sad or whatever. Shit happens in my life sometimes that makes me pretty depressed or angry and I have to talk myself out of the mood. I just tell myself that its not worth it, I'm wasting my time being sad, mad, whatever, when I have a family that cares and friends who I can talk to if I need to. I've been on so many differnet meds in the past and the side effects are just bullshit. One made me so sick to my stomach, one made me shake so badly, a few made me lose my sex drive, some make you gain weight, it just goes on and on. That's why I still smoke. That's my med of choice. Not right for everyone, but it does wonders for me :)

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        • Same here!

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    • 420johnk

      true that lol but to be honest, i blame myself for being stupid and doing drugs which could be the reason why, its exhausting to me when i have to every day, there has to be meds for this shit right?

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  • Ksizzle

    Ever since I stopped talking to the guy that I fell in love with..I've been really sad. but yesterday it hit me really bad. Seeing both of my bestfriends in happy relationships. it just made me realize that I have no life. I have no motivation to do anything anymore. I just want to sleep ALL day.. I use to be the type of girl who always got ready, hair done, dressed cute. I took care of myself. Now I throw my hair up, put on the reading glasses, no make-up, and sweats and sweat shirt on.. It's rough.. I deffinatly know what your going thorugh.. It dosen't help either when people are saying "Your letting yourself go." "Gosh you've turned into a scrub..what's wrong wtih you?"

    It's pretty difficult.

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    • jojo4040

      i understand how you feel. i used to be like that. i'm still mending but i'll get better. i used to be an attractive girl but it changed when my heart was broken. i didn't care about myself anymore.

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      • Ksizzle

        How did you get over it? Because right now it's really hard for me. Ecspacially when I see this guy in the halls, and he smiles at me. It makes things so much harder for me to get over him. I'm just not the same person I use to be, and I don't like it.

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  • jojo4040

    i can't forget someone for about three years. i often act happy around people. when i was alone, i felt so alone.i watched Running Man (Korean variety show) and laugh happily. as time goes by, i don't feel so lonely anymore and my heart become lighter. now i still think about that someone but most of the time, i don't care.

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  • wigsplitz

    I find some situations where it behooves me to act happy....my true happiness is unrelated.

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  • lkjhgfd

    shit cray i cant make maself happy

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    • 420johnk

      thats what you think but it took me awhile to notice that if you just try your hardest to be happy, it's better than letting whatever puts you down to be on your mind. I only recently realized this and im still improving on blocking out the bad thoughts and im considering on taking meds because it's kind of a short cut..

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  • misca

    I act happy around people. Don't want to bother others by being sad.

    Not sure if it's normal though.

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    • 420johnk

      i do too, it's probably because you also dont want others to think your "emo" or wierd for being depressed lol

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  • I act happy constantly. I'm not a happy or sad person, just an empty one.

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    • 420johnk

      thats understandable, when im alone, i feel empty if not sad the majority of the time but becoming a member on this web i think was a good idea because nobody knows who you actually are so its easier to converse about it

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    • RavagedSoul

      Yea I totally know how you feel. Like they say, bring a smile to work. Most of the people around me, they just don't seem to get me. They say I am a little twisted in the head for what? Having opinions which differ from normal social standards? Judgemental assholes. But to prevent chaos from ensueing with bad work rapport, just fake it

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    • wigsplitz

      Ahh, maybe you're not empty, just not 'happy' by the typical standard. I think that's good actually, you are not blinded by dumb shit...like how money or a car or a shitload of 'friends' or whatever makes most people happy, you take more pleasure in more 'real' things. I applaud you for that, honestly. Most people need so much external gratification, you don't.

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      • 420johnk

        thanks for your opinion, it's very wise and true but i still just believe that putting every thing aside is better than putting it in the way of your own path, both ways seem difficult though.

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