Is it normal to have this kind of relationship?

Me and a female friend of mine have known each other for almost 4 years. We're really good friends. In fact, it seems we've become a little too friendly with each other. We both come from failed marriages, and in the beginning, we both agreed to just stay friends without all the complications of a serious boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. However I've noticed that we always tell each other "I love you." Every week, I'd text her telling her how much she really means to me and that I can't imagine life without her and she tells me she feels the same. I gave her some flowers last week, and she wasn't creeped out by it. She loved it in fact. We call each other baby or babe. I even call her "my little mermaid" as a pet name and again, she's not creeped out by it. Basically we do everything a romantic couple would do even though we both agreed to just stay friends. And yes there is also sex involved. Lots and lots of sex. She really loves it when I give her a massage. Even during the sex we tell each other "I love you." Truth is, I really do love her, and she knows it. All this is starting to make me wonder if this is a normal thing. Can a man and woman be friends and still love each other in a romantic way? Or have we actually become a couple without us really knowing it? Could this be a romantic friendship we have? What could it be?

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72% Normal
Based on 25 votes (18 yes)
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  • lemonpeezy

    You're in a relationship with this woman regardless of how ya'll wanna label it and it all happened naturally, which is the best part. Why fight it, and don't kid yourselves that "you're just friends" that's obviously not all it is. Your love transpired from a friendship which is how a healthy relationship should begin....so of course you're still going to be friends as well as lovers. Enjoy it.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Maybe ya'll are already a couple? There are worse things in this life than being with someone you actually love.

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  • doolittler

    Tie the knot

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    • Why?

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  • Truth is, this relationship was really intended to be just a fling where the 2 of us have casual no strings attached sex, and nothing more. But over time, I found myself falling for her, and it wasn't because of the sex, it was because she was displaying qualities that I've always looked for in a woman. One of those qualities was that she understood me better than anyone else ever did. Next thing you know, we become inseparable. We constantly text each other, give each other christmas gifts, I'm writing poems for her, we go out for drives in my car, we even have an anniversary where we celebrate the day we first met. I never thought any of this would happen, but it happened. At this point, I don't really care if we're an official couple or not. All I care about is that she's in my life regardless, and that we really love and care about each other.

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  • Ellenna

    Sounds as if you have a very good thing going there: if I were you I'd stop questioning it or trying to label it and just enjoy what you have

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    • Yeah I understand what you're saying. I just wanna know if this sort of thing is normal or common.

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      • Ellenna

        Definitely normal, but probably not common enough! Treasure and nurture it

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  • Funny thing is, there were a few times she asked me questions about how I'd treat her if we ever did become a committed couple. I told her I'd treat right, I'd never hurt her, never cheat on her, and never take her for granted. I even asked her if she ever wanted to get serious and become my girlfriend. She said no, and I just told her that whether she's my girlfriend or just a friend, I'll always love her no matter what, and she was cool with it.

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