Is it normal to have this in a relationship? what should i do?

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Me and my boyfriend have been together for 5 years. We've been in ups and downs. We argue, fight, make up and even break up then try to work it out again. Until this May, he suddenly becomes colder,he said he is tired, gets fed up with everything including our relationship. I asked him if he wants to break up with me at first but he refused. I gave him time to cool down and after a days I talked to him about us, he said he doesn't know why he is feeling that way, he is tired of everything, gets fed up, feels incompetent, lost and felt like he needs to be on his own . But he said sorry to me and will try to make it up, work it out but he can't promise me anything. I asked him if he wants space, but he also he is not sure if that is what he want. Now, I dont know what to do. I love him. 😣😥😭😭

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  • normalornaw
    4 years ago

    It takes 2 people to make a relationship work. You don’t need to try and make it work when he isn’t going to try. Just at least sit down and ask him if you’re the reason why he is tired and all that. And if he says yes that’s your cue to leave. You don’t need someone that doesn’t need you. Always remember that. I know you love him but you will feel much better down the line! He is an ass for even telling you that. He shouldn’t have said anything until he was sure of his feelings. He doesn’t need to make you unsure of yours just because he is unsure of his own.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      Thank you for making me feel lighter with your words. norma

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    Just leave him, and move on with your life.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      really? How sad. Its not easy for me, Cause i don't want to blame my self someday for just giving up 💔

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        If you have a goal to lose five, or ten pounds then that is something to not give up on, but with this relationship it's not the same thing. You're not the one who gave up, on the relationship. You can't force something to work that is broken.

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