Is it normal to have this constant fear?

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I always have this constant fear, that no matter what I do, I am going to lose a lot of people I have cared about. I have had members in my family that were close to me, my aunt, grandma and cousins, but they left me because of something that happened in my family that I would rather not discuss. Ever since then, I have been afraid to get really close to anyone because of my fear that they are either going to break my heart, or even worse we drift further and further apart as the days go on. Recently I have had this best friend that I go to for everything. He literally knows everything about me and I know a lot about him. He is probably the greatest friend I have. However, he is going to college next year and everyone knows how that turns out. He will end up being too busy and it will end up being an effort for us to be friends. I don't want this to happen. He promised me that he would always be my best friend no matter what. He never breaks promises, he is the most sensitive guy I know. I feel that time is flying by and I don't want our friendship to end so soon. Am I crazy for even thinking that I'm going to lose him? Am I a horrible friend because I can't even trust him enough to keep his promise? Please help! I am stuck in a depressed state of mind and I can't get out of it. I know once I figure this out, I will be okay. WHAT DO I DO?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    You move to where he is, skype, call every day, etc.

    I think in a sense, this is normal. Donnie Darko said, "Every living creature on Earth dies alone." You can try your hardest, and it'll get you far, but sometimes there is nothing you can do; it's just up to luck. You should try to be close to people, but, I think this is how it is. Sometimes you lose the people that you love. You can accept it, or become a hermit. The choice is yours.

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  • yesnomaybeso
    11 years ago

    Helloo, I'd say this is normal because it has happened to me too: My best friend went to uni last year. Before it, I was so scared. I had told her I was fearing her leaving a lot, I was scared she wouldn't talk. I said I wanted her to have fun at uni but also to think of me. I'm not gonna lie: at first it was hard. She was so busy most of the times and I felt so abandoned. But then, she tried hard to talk to me. We obviously don't talk as much as we used to, but even if she can't talk all the time, she tries and I really appreciate it: i feel even more loved than before because i know that she is sacrificing fun time for me. I'm sure this is gonna happen to you, maybe even better! :) Don't feel sad, good luckkk! :)

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    • music100
      11 years ago

      Thank you SOOOO much this, helped me a lot. thank you :)

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