Is it normal to have these urges.

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I'm a married bisexual man. I love my wife and I enjoy our sex life but I've really started to miss men. I mean when you're with a man they want you, even if it's just for that half hour you're what they want. It's sex through and through pure, hard, sometimes rough, sex none of the caring feeling crap you absolutely have to put up with from women every time. sex with a man is real sex and nothing else. I what a man so badly right now but there's no way to get one without cheating on my wife which I could never do. I'm also finding myself looking at other women I admit I suppose also just miss new sex but what I miss most of all is a man's desire. Am I just bored or is it really just finally catching up to me that I've been denying this part of me for so long now.

Please help.

Also homophobic comments will just turn me on so don't bother,
and my wife hates using the strapon i bought her so don't suggest that.

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  • quentari
    11 years ago

    Not all women want "caring feeling crap" during sex lol, although obviously that's what your wife wants. Have you tried asking her to make it a little rougher in the bedroom? You should really try and find some sort of compromise that you're both happy with otherwise even if you don't cheat your unhappiness may still dissolve the marriage.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Actually they do ALL want that caring feeling crap when I compare them with the men I like, I've been with men who are so much worse than my wife at it and they drove me nuts. She really does try in the bed room I can't say otherwise but the thing she doesn't/can't do is enjoy what I want/need her too and if she's not enjoying it I cant either.

      please I still really need help with this.

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      • quentari
        11 years ago

        Just the women you've been with. trust me there are plenty of women just in it for the sex and there are millions of girls who like it rough.

        And it sucks that she's tried but you can't both enjoy it, at least she's open to the fact that you need something extra in the bedroom but I don't really have any extra advice I could give you. I'd suggest an open relationship but you'd have to be okay with it, your wife would have to be okay with it, your potential partner would have to be okay with it... Open relationships aren't for everyone.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          Again I say I doubt it, in my experience no woman is as ready, willing and just plain up for and excited by sex as a man. Also I've suggested the open relationship thing It did not go down well.

          So no ideas?

          Shame. thanks all the same.

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  • bigguy2010
    11 years ago

    No matter your sexual status, you made a vow to love her in sickness health until death do you part. Be true to your vows.

    Should you tell her? As long as you haven't been with ANY other people, then no. If you have fooled around, she needs to be tested, as do you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Okay so you think I should stay unfulfilled sexually because I've promised to love her, which I do unconditionally, I feel there should be some wiggle room for me and that she should understand that there are some things she just can't do for me even if she tried.

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  • IronHead
    11 years ago

    Discuss your feelings with your wife. See if she's willing to try an open marriage, even present the idea that she can sleep with other people too, if she wants. If this is to no avail, then seriously consider leaving her, because you're obviously unhappy with the way things are right now.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Tried it nothing doing, sorry.

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  • GreyWulfen
    11 years ago

    Ever thought about a threesome? Or asked your wife if she's okay with it if you have sex with other men?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Yes I've asked she said no to both.

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