Is it normal to have these feelings with anxiety?

71% Normal
4 Comments

Basically, I have an anxiety issue. I worry about things that I shouldn't worry about, but sometimes I am not convinced it is anxiety. For example, earlier today, I had thoughts of suicide, and yet I LOVE life and I don't want to die. I didn't think of killing myself, it was almost a scary thought, like a worst case scenario in my head. Also, I feel so bored and demotivated all the time, and really irritable. I don't understand why, because my life isn't bad. Usually people with anxiety have a cause right? Like they have a bad childhood or they are scared of flying or social activities and stuff? I don't have any of these issues. I feel anxious for NO reason I can think of. So I'm starting to think I have depression, for the very reason that I feel so shitty. But, a few days ago I felt quite good and upbeat, I DON'T GET IT!?

Voting Results
71% Normal
Based on 14 votes (10 yes)
Feeling Suicidal?
We couldn't help but notice that you might be asking about things related to suicide...
If that's not the case, please ignore this message.
But, if that is the case, please, please, please call this hotline and talk to someone about it. Or, visit one of these websites and get some help.
Unfortunately IIN isn't the best place for you to be asking about this. Check out the above websites or call one of the hotlines instead. They can help. Really. We know what we're talking about. Call. Do it. Please.
Remember that everything gets better with time.
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 4 )
  • unionclocks
    8 years ago

    Its not normal overall, but these arent unusual symptoms of anxiety! That is to say, the anxiety is unusual but the symptoms are not. (Ive also had very similar experiences to you, so this advice comes from personal experience!)

    First of all, yes, sometimes these things do happen without a cause. Nobody realy knows 100% what causes anxiety issues to occur, as it does happen with people like you, with "normal" untruamatic, undramatic lives.

    Don't feel like you NEED a cause to feel this way! It will only make you feel worse. Its perfectly okay to be anxious for very little reason. Its likely that there is a reason you just may not be able to pinpoint it...and thats fine. Sometimes we dont always know why we feel like this - i know for me, a lot of it was caused by minor factors i wasnt consciously aware of but still felt something towards (thats just how the brain works in terms of processing!).

    So, a thought you have that you dislike - as such as your thoughts of suicide yet you disliked them and want to live - theyre called 'intrusive thoughts'!

    Theyre bad, but try to...ignore them. DO NOT concentrate on them. Realise that theyre intrusive, and not the way you are. When you get one such thought, think to yourself "No! I dont think and feel like this! This isnt me! This is just anxiety!" because thats what it is. Just anxiety, forming in a bad way.

    Try not to put yourself down based upon those thoughts, because like i said...they arent you! And yes, i do mean literally tell yourself that, tell yourself that enough and when you have an intrusive thought the first thing youll think of is "nope! not today! this isnt what i think!" and youll probably stop thinking about it.

    On the boredness/demotivation...it sounds weird, but i dealt with that too and what helped me was becoming happy. So um, try to be happy! How to be happy though?

    Dont think about yourself/your mood that is, if you take constant note of it yes you will feel bored! Try to enrich your life with activity and stimulation constantly - yes that means playing games, even just...talking to friends. ANYTHING that means you dont think "im bored" because if i know this trend of behaviour well enough, the 'im bored' stage is when the anxiety starts.

    When you do feel bored, try not to think about anything anxiety-sparking. Imagine a story or fantasy world, think about what youll do tommorow, think about a game or tv show or anything you like at all - at any bad thought at all just reject it. think to yourself 'no i will not think about this!'. Even if its something childish or weird, youll be a lot happier thinking about something weird than something bad.

    This advice may be tough, especially to begin with, but its possible to do!

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • Short4Words
    8 years ago

    I'd be most worried about why you feel dizzy at night before bed.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • anxiouscow
    8 years ago

    Also, sometimes at night I feel kinda afraid to sleep. Also, when I do get to sleep, I feel dizzy, almost as if I'm hallucinating, and then I worry I have schizophrenia.. it's fucking annoying.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • flyingnostalgia
      8 years ago

      I dont think you have schizophrenia. I too get dizzy when i fall asleep, its as if the room is spinning and i get butterflies in my stomach. I have had it happening many times and have gone through worst case scenario (i think). I happened when i was going to bed and i put my head on the pillow and suddenly i felt dizzy, but then i fell asleep. But then suddenly out i woke up (but i had my eyes shut) and when i opened them i was like the whole room was spinning like in vortex, i felt huge pressure on my eyes as if they were rotating unconsciously with what i was seeing. I think i woke up in some of the REM stages. It was one heck of a trippy experience. And i too sometimes feel a weird kind of dread like feeling when i am going to sleep. But i have problems with sleep paralysis and hypnogogia...and that makes me very sleep deprived.
      But i wont say sleep deprivation is the thing that is making you feel dizzy at night, but rather the psychological tiredness the anxiety is causing and in which it makes you feel trapped.
      Or it could just be inner ear infection or inner ear disturbance due to the loud music.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0