Is it normal to have these feelings?

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I'm not quite sure were to begin but I think it all may have started when I was sixteen but not sure. I'm 28 years old and lately I have been feeling like a failure, lonley and overall just a negative person. I had my first child when I was 16 and was involved in a very abusive relationship after four years of taking the abuse I finally decided to move on. Also, my mother passed away when I was nineteen she was 44. I never really talked about my mothers death but from time to time I would think about it and it would make me go into a depressive state. My father was around and still is and besides my bestfriend seems like the only two people that can make me feel better. I'm going through some changes now with my current lifestyle I'm married just had a baby but I'm still not satisfied. I feel like I'm always sad, depressed, lonely, and not worth anything...I feel like I wasted my life away and I should be doing something better I don't have the urge, courage or motivation. I try to fool myself into thinking thats what i want to do, but then I tend to fall off...Its seems like I never finish anything.

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  • roxylinds
    13 years ago

    Postpartum depression is what came to mind immediately.

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  • Echoes
    13 years ago

    If you've recently had a baby, I'm sure it's only postpartum depression. Make sure you get professional help, meanwhile follow this link..

    http://www.helpguide.org/mental/postpartum_depression.htm

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  • Melodioushands
    13 years ago

    Everyone gets depressed sometimes but you sound like you might need therapy. But so heres what i'm going to say about this. It does not sound to me like you have "waisted" your life. I don't think anyone can really waist their life because we were not put on this earth to do anything more than live. From what you have said you seem to be doing alright for your situation. Think about this you got out of a abusive relation ship(something many women have not had the courage to do ) you have delt with having a child at 16 you have gotten married and had another child. They way i see it right now the best thing you can do is be a great mom and do the best you can to leave a good impression on the world. Just try to think on the happy side of things because their is soo much in the world to be happy about everyday if you just see the little things like the beauty of nature or how sweet your kids are or how lucky you are to have the life you do and how strong you are to be able to deal with it you can get through anything. life is not necessarily here to make you famous or rich or special but it can be wonderful without these things and sometimes even better for people. If you ever get depressed also just think of all the things you can do with you life do something random like painting a picture, going for a walk or volunteering for something and just enjoy life because we as people get so little of it. Also just remember that you can never be a true failure at life because life is just for living and that is whats best about it its not like theres some bar of expectations for you to meet that say you have done bad with your life. As long as you are proud of yourself and your accomplishments you have done well and if your not proud than do something you are proud of. Now after that little speech i do have to say that if you want to talk to someone about your mother to someone i'm sure you can find someone to talk to be it a therapist or a trusted friend but you cant let the emotions you have weigh you down and hurt you you have to express yourself weather it be in art or talking or writing or whatever you want. Now i know i've said this 3 times already but never feel that you have done badly in your life because life is just for living and it sounds life you have done a great job. :) sorry if this was too long or was repetitive and didn't make scene in some spots but i felt like you needed it. I wish you luck.

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  • Brittany666
    13 years ago

    I think this is normal.. Because I think alot of people feel like this, thinking that they're a failure and being negative.

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