Is it normal to have the inability to be fake?

I'm glad that you've established the fine line of being real and rude. I would say give your opinions and statements when they will be most accepted. When you do this, without a justification, then you come off as being rude and mean. Also if people want to be around other fake people and go along with it, its not your job to point it out and make an announcement about it. Let them see it for themselves. I'm that way to because if I don't like something you will know it and I'm not going to act another way to appease anyone else. As far as job interviews and other topics, you;re expected to act a way to get a job and appease others, doesn't mean your not being yourself, your just playing the game. Also some people like the fakeness and hate when someone calls them out on it. I would say, let them do them and you do you.

grow up and get over yourself.. everyone is fake now and again whether its for financial or scoial gain...but why seperate yourself to your own detriment when you can just as easily gain advantages for a few kind words?

Actually, I wish there were more people like you out there. I don't like fakeness either. However, I do believe there is a limit as to how far you'll go. You can be real without being rude.

Somedays when I'm at work and having a bad day, I don't feel like putting on the happy face. I seriously wish we could all just be real with each other. Not that I'm a fake person. Most of the time I do show it when I'm pissed off or sad. But if I get a customer that gets on my last nerve for some strange reason (which is very rare), I kinda wanna just tell them off right there. But then that thought that I could get fired suddenly springs up in my mind. I sometimes just find myself holding back a lot of the things I truly feel. The things I wanna just show, and be comfortable showing without being misunderstood as being something other then what I really am.

I wanna defend myself without being considered a bitch. I wanna voice my opinion without people getting all offended. I wanna flirt with someone without being looked at like I'm a dumb bimbo, slutty girl, or a tease. I wanna laugh at the stuff I find funny without feeling awkward. And the list goes on.

I mean, those people who smile all the time..., seriously? You can't tell me that they're happy ALL THE TIME. It's really such a shame that people just don't show what they really feel. And it's pretty fucked up that in the kind of society we live in, you have to be a certain way to be accepted.

It's like we're all running from nobody but ourselves. I feel like it's one of the prime reasons why so many people(mainly teenagers), get so psychologically distraught over "who they are vs. who they are supposed to be". It's like, you go through fucking hell, banging your head across the wall, yanking your hair, just trying to live up to this description of what society defines as perfection. And after running around in circles, and going to hell and back again, you come to the realization that you forgot who you really are, because it got lost somewhere on the way to FAKENESS!

I understand your frustration. I work with the general public and I have to be fake far more often than I would prefer. However I can't get away from that "the customer's always right" attitude. So I balance that with being real to those who appreciate it. This isn't always easy to discover but that's what I do.

Just yesterday I found myself telling a client that I hit myself in the face with my phone because I was tired. We laughed and he shared with me that he had a slight hangover because his birthday was the day before. And then we got down to business. I can't tell you how many times I've had 30 min conversations with customers who appreciate the personal attention. These are never fake conversations. I enjoy giving people a human interaction in a world so full of rules that no one values.

I never use my title at work unless I have to. People don't often expect someone with actual authority to answer the phone and be easy to communicate with. We are so use to faceless people that we forget how to be human.

Personally, I feel it is worth wading through the bullshit to find the nice people. Just because someone is covered in bullshit, does not mean you can't wipe some of it away and discover something good underneath. But if you are never willing to make the effort, you will certainly get some on you.

shut.thefuck.up.

I think you are thinking too much and spending too much time looking at others.

Only my real friends can endure my flatulence

I don't do fake or fantasy. I do honest and logical and real. I guess I may come across as a bitch, but I have a lot of love ones around me that understand my "sharpness". I'm just honest.
People who think I'm harsh can judge me, but since they don't pay my bills, live my life or store my skeletons, their opinions mean nothing to me.
I always remind people if they talk about someone to u, they WILL talk about u to someone else.

i guess i was having a moment like you so i typed a search on google saying: how come the most fake and manipulative ppl have a huge social network. like no one see's the bs and the frontin. and how come for the last few years i have been falling out with a lot of people JUST BECAUSE I SAID THE TRUTH. just because i could not sugarcoat their bs like others. i do not jump on ppl and try to tell them right from wrong but when they put stuff out on me and i turn around and say some real stuff about them that is real and i got proof for my statements...suddenly they act like i am this bad person. for instance on facebook. i know so many people that talk so much trash behind peoples back but get on facebook and know exactly what to say to attract everyone. i am not trya still their show. but this issue is getting at me personally and i guess i was wondering if it's just me that feels like my honesty and bluntness fairness has caused me a lot of short coming in life. i promise you know everyone says good attracts good and wins good ppl over but that's really hard these days. its hard as hell. i am just looking for answers to cope or learn how to deal with this new way of living. i feel like many have learned how to handle it a long time ago and i did not. never figured out how to do currupt things to get an advantage. kiss the right ass for money. or talk trash and smile in peoples face.or walk around contradicting my own statements and believe repeatedly without any real reason. its wild help me figure a bit of this out. thanks

I'm the same way. But Iv made an effort to be nice if they have done nothing to deserve worse. It's normal. It's who u are

You can be honest without being rude. Of course it's good that you're honest. But be sure to always be tactful.

These remind me also about how people should appreciate were giving them the truth and not making them look like fools falling for bullsh*t.

It sucks cause it would be kool if the person's fakeness of being nice and sweet was real but its all just an act to have respect. If there were more people like me, theyd be more respected for being real.