Is it normal to have soft corner for the student for whom i have left

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So I do not have any idea where I am going. I left my plum job because I fell in love with a 16 year old student. I chose to leave the job out of ethics. Near about 2 months have passed but I still can't get her outta my head.

At first I thought it to be some kinda attraction which would be overcomed by me with the passage of time but still she appears , when I close my eyes. I can still feel her somehow I do not know what exactly to do. I feel like I am losing it. By now she has easily forgotten me because she is only 16 but I really don't know how am I gonna cope up with my feelings.

One thing for sure that, I actually have fallen in love with her. Although I know that 26 with 16 will never ever gonna work.

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  • TrustMeImLying
    8 years ago

    If only you bothered to get to know her, even as a friend, I assure you this feeling would dissipate. So many times the more you get to know a crush you come to the realization "wtf was I thinking." You are infatuated with the idea of her. Unrequited love festers when kept secret. Have you even talked to a friend about this? A family member? No one in the world will judge you because it's not like you tried to get with a 16yo

    I don't doubt one bit that you "think" you are in love with her. But, and sorry to be blunt, being in love is a positive/empowering feeling to say the least, not one that makes you all emo. I am sure you are probably so convinced that you are in love that you'd bet your life on that feeling. The tragedy is you so clearly aren't.

    Why do I say this? Well because I've been there. I was 19 when I was at my sister's wedding in another country *pops a pen in mouth like a cigar* It was love at first sight... or so I believed for those 2 weeks I was there.

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    • chakrabortysanjeet24
      8 years ago

      That is why I left that part of the country as well as my job. Tell me would I have been able to do it if I were a nimwit perv. I had the option to make her mine I even had the chance but I did not do so.

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago

    I hope you're finding all these comments about you not being in love but in lust; it's only infatuation; you only think you're in love etc helpful, because I find them unhelpful and irrelevant.

    You acted honourably in making no moves to get involved with her and only time and eventually another relationship will get her out of your mind. You may never forget her as your first love, but it doesn't mean you won't love again and in the meantime keep yourself busy with other interests

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  • regisphilbin
    8 years ago

    it is normal for men to fall in love with younger girls

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    • Barbarella
      8 years ago

      Not so fast there, sonny. We Cougars like to break 'em in young. And, when we do they never look back.

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    You're NOT in love, but rather just deeply infatuated.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    You are not in love with this girl; you are in lust with her. Go out and get laid and you will forget her in short order.

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  • creampawf
    8 years ago

    Well, at least she isn't twelve years old. I know someone who married another person who was 8 years younger than he was.

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  • mystery7
    8 years ago

    It can work when she's legal. 10 years is not much difference when she's 25 and you're 35

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  • Barbarella
    8 years ago

    Her 18th birthday is only a year and a half away. You can pick up girls in bars until then.

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    • chakrabortysanjeet24
      8 years ago

      Ha ha! Gd 1 ! Unfortunately I do not consume liquor.

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  • idiamin
    8 years ago

    Did you bang her?

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    • chakrabortysanjeet24
      8 years ago

      No

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    • chakrabortysanjeet24
      8 years ago

      I never even went two feet close to her.

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      • [Old Memory]
        8 years ago

        She's a 16 yr old child for fucks sake. Ever seen how they act??

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