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Me and my ex, I don't know why I just love having sex with her so at least once a week we go some where and have sex. I've tried it with other girls and it just doesnt feel the same.
hm. the majority of people seem to disagree with this being normal.
I differ.
There may have been problems or dis-compatibilities that made continuing your relationship impossible.
The fact you broke up does not automatically mean you can never speak another word with one another, neither does it mean you can't stay friends with benefits.
The fact is: If you have an ongoing sexual relation with someone, you "learn" about one another...you learn to move in a rhythm together, in which positions it works great, where the other person likes to be touched...you get used to signs like moaning, and get used to the position the other person likes so much...you learn to trust each other and enjoy each other in a whole different way, automatically doing what pleases them without having to worry about if what you are doing feels right to them.
In the case of girls(not related to you but saying it anyway as it may be a reason for your ex), you also get a feeling for how long he will last, or know if he's man enough to help you finish in a different way if he's a bit too fast...knowing he will last(one way or another) until you are "happy" makes things a lot more relaxed ;)
While with guys i usually have just one-nighters these days, with other girls i still prefer ongoing friendships, for exactly the reasons listed.
And for those same reasons, to me, it makes perfect sense to keep up a sexual friendship with your ex-partner until you meet someone new. We all have needs and desires, and if you broke up for reasons that did not include shouting at each other, lots of crying and stuff flying at someone....why not keep comforting each other in a way in which you ARE compatible?