Is it normal to have sex with an adopted sibling?

I'm currently 19 but when I was 4, my parents adopted a little girl from our church who had been orphaned by a car accident. She is 21 now and for the past 4 years we have had an intense and even romantic sexual relationship.

We have tried keeping away from each other out of respect for our parents, but, no matter what, we can't stay away from each other! We don't see each other as siblings but as childhood friends.

I guess it is more of a confession rather than a question but I'd like any input and advice I can get!

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  • Avant-Garde

    Yes. It is not like the two of you are genetically linked to one another.

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  • Who_Fan4Life

    Try and tell that one to the priest- ha!

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  • StraightIntermediate

    Your parents probably knew you two were falling for each other even before you did. If they're your parents that means in all likelihood they've been in love at least once and know what two people in love looks like.

    I would bet money on it that if you went and told them they would confess they already knew, but the thing is, if everything was out in the open would you really still be having sex with her now the taboo of it is diminished?

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  • LightBlue

    Sex is sex. If its just casually then go for it. Its not like your going to pursue marriage right then and there in the middle of it. No your just people with feelings. I personally don't have a problem with this. Your parents probably would've known that this could happen. Your a guy, She's a girl. You're not related. In animal kingdom. It doesn't matter who the hell you grew up with. Your going to do them because you have urges and that's just what humans do. We like to have sex. Not everybody but most of the nation. You guys aren't related its perfectly normal and I think you should continue what you're doing. If its just for the urges its fine. If you are thinking of pursuing a relationship (Like getting married), Talk about this with your parents.

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  • ashlynnisdirty

    my parents took in a foster kid when i was 16 and expected me to be more decent while he was around. I was not changing how i was around the house so i continued to sunbathe and swim nude etc. He used to watch me and masturbate and i didnt really care but one day my dad caught him and he was gone in a second

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  • oleo

    Certainly it's normal, the main thing is that she's not your biological sister and hey you're lucky you get to have sex with her.

    There's a beautiful girl I really like who's crazy about me but it's hard for us to be together. I won't get into the what and why but I'm hoping we can pull it off some day. Your situation is easier than mine.

    It's funny who you could end up falling in love with.

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    • Agirlsbestfriend.

      is it your real sister?

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      • oleo

        No thankfully not. She's not directly related. I wish I could just blurt it out but I can't.

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        • Agirlsbestfriend.

          if she's not related then theres no incest going on. it should be fine. some situations are weird though!

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          • "Directly related"... Hmm...

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            • Agirlsbestfriend.

              Oh right... I wonder where you draw the line between related/"directly related" cousin maybe? i dunno

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  • MonchichiLuvsu

    If you don't feel like siblings and you aren't related, I really don't see the problem. Go on with your bad self.

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  • Freedom_

    I totally see situations like this as incest... you grew up together. Honestly, how can you not think of her as a relative? I had a step brother when I was 8-13 yrs old and to this day, even though I haven't seen him in over 5 years, I think of him as my brother.

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    • Would you consider anyone who you grow up with as a relative?

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      • Freedom_

        Pretty much. Anyone who has a title that relates to me such as brother, sister, step bro/sis, brother in law, sister in law, cousin, 2nd cousin, non-biological aunts and uncles, etc. Maybe I'm wrong, but I feel like these relations are wrong and honestly, I'm just going with my gut on this and I've never been in your situation. This is just one of few things I can't wrap my mind around and maybe I am being harsh and judgmental, but it just doesn't feel right to me.

        I've considered this situation before: If I fell in love with a man who had a son and my daughter fell in love with his son I do not think it would be right for both me and my daughter to pursue a relationship with the man and his son. There would have to be a compromise; either I could date the man or my daughter could date his son.

        I also am more against cheating on a spouse with a family member than any other type of cheating and I disagree more with family dating family's exes than friends dating friends' exes.

        I wish I had some rationality and logic to go with my convictions, but I have none. Albeit I must know the reason behind my beliefs now, as I've never laid them out like this before.

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  • Crazy-guy

    I can see most people dont really know the meaning of family since most of the people here see nothing wrong with it but why do you even ask if its good??? You see its not cause she is family no gene relations but its not ok because your parents see her as a daughter and you are your parents son so YOU ARE RELATED!

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  • reallyalthea

    I came to this question because I have no Life !

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  • bigdaddycock

    i always wanna do it with my seven adopted siblings!

    signed,

    bigdaddycock

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  • SadoShaun&MasochistMarci

    Just do it. Life is too short to worry about little things like this. Be happy.

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  • Harridan

    Technically, you are not siblings, so there is no problem with you two mating on the physical level. If your parents have a problem with it, guess you need to keep it secret for their sakes. Best suggestion, move away and put some distance between you and them.

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  • earth_lovelies

    That's hot. I wish I had your life.

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  • KBSH

    What matters is your happiness. If you think that you will be happy with this when you look back or if you are happy now, regardless of whoever it is, it is all right.

    I recognize the taboo behind incest (even if it is "indirect relationships"), but in the end, you only have one life. If you truly enjoy her company, it is completely normal.

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  • ashlynnisdirty

    thats bc its another guy, try having a hot step sister who maybe wears skirts with no panties, id bet u would be all over that lol

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  • chloroplast

    Go ahead, don't let other people tell you who to love. If you are not causing any physical or mental harm, then there is no reason to hold back, especially if you two love each other so much. Don't listen to all these stuck up people. incestual and psuedo-incestual relationships aren't bad if executed safely.

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  • Royalburden

    This is just appalling. I'm adopted and I would never do that. When you're adopted you're raised together as siblings, for all intents and purposes you ARE siblings. To say otherwise would defeat the whole purpose of getting adopted in the first place. If you can't get adopted and see that as your proper family then that's the ultimate gift you just shat on right there. You just chose to be alone and without a family.

    But of course you weren't the one who was adopted where you? Well then this is to your sister:

    Do you not appreciate the grace and generosity that your parents gave to you when they decided to take you in as their daughter? Would you prefer to go back to having nothing to being without a family? How could you spend all those years with that family and completely spoil the gift by trading that precious family relationship WHICH as you have personally seen CAN be taken away by fate, for a silly little romance which in all honesty has a low rate of success. Cheating, divorce, a simple argument gone sour, these things can shatter a romance in minutes IS THAT WORTH breaking your parents' hearts and ruining the relationship you have with your brother? You both should end it now, if you know what's good for your family. Family comes first everyone knows that.

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  • mlbryan44

    Nice story. Is she really your true sister? I bet she is..you are testing the waters...careful it gets deep.

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  • Cheese123

    Tricky...at least somebody's getting laid.

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  • tripw7

    Hey, life has it's unusual relationships as some see it. Maybe this was meant to be. If you enjoy each other, why not. Your parents will not have two separate offspring, but maybe just one. This is fine and healthy.

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