Is it normal to have several bad dreams involving my boyfriend

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hi everyone
so I've never really done this also I'm a horrible writer so ill try to keep it simple but every now and then i have these weird dreams
sometimes there the the same other times there similar in the way that i get angry, scared and hurt and my partner is doing something that hurts me
last night i had a very weird dream where he was in a big building with all the boys from our grade and when i went in there where topless women everywhere and he was playing with some girls boobs and everyone was trying to take me out of the building nd the weirdest part was his sister was running it and when he came over he was talking about how much he was enjoying it,
i lashed out in what i thought was my sleep only to wake up and fine i squeezed his arm

i have many different dreams like this, i have no boobs and am very embarrassed at that and am quite scared he will leave me because of that or cheat and i think that has something to do with my dream but I'm getting quite scared that my dreams are trying to tell me something and its stressing me out and putting stress in my relationship
I've had dreams of him cheating with friends with randoms
had dreams of him going to strip clubs
all this scares me
I'm a very closed body person
i have no confidence i hate my body and i think thats why I'm stressing but i don't know what to do anymore
I'm terrified of loosing him i love him so much but I'm scared he's going to look for what i don't have
and this will tear me apart
i already cry over it
when i look in the mirror
when I'm not wearing a bra and he pulls my top tight
i just hate it
is it wrong for me to have these dreams
i don't know if anyone can reply or just click yes or no on whether or not this is normal but if replies are welcome please someone help me
i don't know what to do
i don't whether I'm getting some sort of a warning that he is going to cheat or leave me or if its just stress related but it hurts me
my heart just starts to ache and i don't know to do
i wish i had boobs for him but i don't and i don't know what to do
I'm literately crying out for help
if he does cheat or leave me
i will be lost
we on ly just got back together from being apart fort four months this is both our first proper relationship were both 18
please help I'm sick of reading things and over thinking to the max
i just don't know what to do anymore so guess hearer it is
is it normal to have dreams about your partner doing things he knows will hurt you and not seem to care
also it tends to feel like he doesn't care in real life
i love him i just really need some good honest advice

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  • Arm0se
    8 years ago

    You shouldn't be ashamed for having small boobs, and if anyone tells you that they are shallow and aren't worth your time.

    Does he give you a reason to think he's cheating on you, or are these just dreams?

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  • modernism
    8 years ago

    I just couldn't bring myself to read all of that, but from what I did, I'd just say dreams aren't a reflection of reality. At all.

    Your insecurities are why you're so paranoid about him cheating or being dishonest. Work on your confidence. He's with you, so he likes you. You just need to learn to like yourself.

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  • pyrofox
    8 years ago

    Hey girl I'm just going to say nightmares of relationships are quite common. Especially if you constantly hiding your fears sometimes as uncomfortable as it is just talking about the fears with your partner. Can relieve the stress as weird and uncomfortable it is as long as you explain its ruining your love and joy of your relationship. I'm reasonably sure he would listen hug you when you fall apart and tell you to continue. It's going to hurt him to hear it but if your sure he truly loves you he would rather help you through the pain than leave you in your vicious cycle.

    I'm talking from my own experience as a person like you who suffers from extreme empathy.

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  • Nokiot9
    8 years ago

    I don't get why girls get so sideways about their boobs. It's NOT the same as a guys dick, so don't even start. It's probably because I like girls with any size breasts. As long as they're not bigger than my head and not fake. I don't like fake boobs. I'd rather they be tiny tiny and real than gigantic and fake as fuck. So be proud of your body hun. U don't need huge tits to be drop dead gorgeous.

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  • green_boogers
    8 years ago

    The dreams mean your subconscious is telling you that he is the wrong guy for you.

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  • Alicook94
    8 years ago

    I constantly have bad dreams about my boyfriend. Your worst fears come out in your dreams. He will cheat on me and it feels so real I wake up mad at him even though he hasn't done anything wrong. Its normal.

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  • MsGrumpAss
    8 years ago

    I agree with the other comments, you need to work on your self confidence. These are just dreams about your insecurities not anything about your relationship. I am sad you feel so insecure and hope you realize he is with you because he likes you, don't ruin what you have by looking for problems. You need to get a hobby that will make you feel good about yourself, something you do just for you. I promise that will help you, I was once like you and it was miserable, take up some hobbies I am serious. You will be shocked at how good you feel.

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