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I'm 17 and my dad has given me a terrible upbringing I love him and all that but I feel like I am attracted to older men like around his age and older to get back at him for not being the father he should have is this normal?
"I'm going to get back at my dad! I'm going to be a whore! That'll teach him..."
Don't lower yourself to cheap sex for such things as revenge. It will open you up to ridicule.
so... how is this really getting back at him?
if anything you'll be more apt to harm yourself than him
I have no love for my birthfather. My "Father" didn't do shit for me. All that SOB did was get my mom pregnant with me. As far as i'm concerned, he is not my father. He was never my dad and never will be. You're not a parent just because you happen to knock a girl up or give birth. It doesn't work that way, Honey. A parent is someone who loves/takes care of his/her kids and would do anything for them...including sacrificing themselves so their kids may live.
How is having sex with some man old enough to be your father going to hurt your dad? I don't think you know the definition of "revenge sex."
I had a terrible upbringing by my dad. I dont wanna go out and fuck to get revenge. That doesnt even make sense.
Don't let your life be distorted by doing things just because you think he won't like them. Formulate proper aspirations not based on your relationship with him.
If you're going to sleep around, do it for yourself because it's what you want.
If your dad was a lousy father, find some manipulative way to let him know. For instance, you could get yourself a first-class education, preferably at dad's expense, then get him a fantastic gift (maybe a new watch and a dozen white roses). Then, ruin the heartwarming moment by telling him that you have a stellar career ahead of you, but no thanks to him because he's been a third rate father at best. Then tell him that after years of abuse, hurt, and emotional devastation, the best thing he could do for you is never to contact you again.
Or come up with your own passive-aggressive idea. The possibilities are endless. Just be sure that it's a healing experience for yourself. No matter how bad you want your dad to feel, it's not worth hurting yourself.
It's not a matter of being a slut it's just that when I do find myself attracted to someone they will usually be around 35 to 40 years old I'm not out banging every guy I see I just the ones that I am attracted too
Listen
You think being a slut will get back at your dad?
I think you need 24 hour fucking care.
What's wrong with your brain
This reminds me of when I was REALLY tubby, mom use to get after me for eating. Which of course, made me desire food even more, after all it is MY body, who the HELL is her to tell me how I should care for it?
However, one day as I was high off of marijuana, looking in the mirror, I realized that the way I was treating my body was not good, and letting spite control my life was equally bad, as if not worse then simply following orders from society..
It probably would be best if you formulated a similar outlook..
With that said... Is it bad that reading this post makes me feel a tad jealous of older men? Like damn it.. I probably would rail a girl with daddy issues.. Can I just dye my hair gray?
It's understandable to some extent, but it's not good for you. Revenge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die. It would be one thing if you dated older men because you liked their maturity, but doing it for revenge will only hurt you (and your partner if he cares for you). I recommmend professional counseling to help you resolve your anger towards your father.
sex won't help you get back at him... revenge sex is for cheating boyfriends, where you sleep with his best friend or something.
Unless your dad wants to have sex with you... then it IS revenge sex...
You sound like an utter chav! Look forward to seeing you on The Jeremy Kyle Show or Jerry Springer
this is what you called getting back! OMG your doing it to yourself and your hurting yourself and if your making you father feel ashamed. if I was you I will talk to him
(father) and just finish this. talking makes things work out.. don't finish bad with your future and don't do mistakes that one day you will regret
I've never been able to wrap my mind around this phenomenon but I know it exists. Normal to people with such upbringings but abnormal to people that don't hold onto things seemingly so childish and unimportant. I had grown up with shitty parents but what I got from it was to be a better father and make sure my wife would be a suitable parent that will treat my children with love as much as I will
Makes sense. I've been with a few younger women with " daddy issues" and they all seem to just want the love and affection of an older guy to compensate for the way their father treated them.