Is it normal to have parents who fight and can't stand each other?

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My father stole $375 from my mom (for Avon) and my mom screamed even when $20 went missing, I'm surprised that she didn't hold a gun to his head...my parents can't stand each other, and the only thing they agree on is that I'm a psycho because I have a couple imaginary friends...I just want to stop the fighting, but if we look at all my friends' families, they all fight each other. Is that normal in western culture?

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  • FunkyHuskyCoolGirlYuki
    11 years ago

    I see your point, I have lots of friends from families much like my own, but everyone thinks I'm violent because I'm constantly threatening people (hence, causing drama) and everyone thinks I'm nuts because I'm surrounded by hatred constantly-even in my school, because I'm German, many of the students call me Nazi (which causes me to threaten them, in which is drama) I want to tear my hair out some times, but it's something I will learn to deal with eventually

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  • SeverusFan23
    11 years ago

    Yes.

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  • iezegrim
    11 years ago

    Sure, it's not uncommon. My parents didn't like each other and eventually divorced. My Mom bitched about my Dad constantly. An atmosphere of hate permeated the home. It spreads just like a disease and it took me years to be able to have a healthy relationship with a partner without drama and conflict. I still have too much conflict with people other than my husband. It might be normal but it's sick and unhealthy. I'm worried that it will affect you the same way. Try and break the chain. Logical, rational self-analysis worked for me. I came to the conclusion that the drama and the fights weren't in my own best interest and when I started letting things go and decided to just enjoy the relationship for the moment and have fun, that's when my partner started to genuinely love me.

    At college I met so many people who came from loving homes where their parents got along well. (Of course, I met just as many with dysfunctional families but I had always known kids from these kinds of families. I seemed to click with kids from broken families.) I noticed that the kids from loving families were not drawn to conflict like I was. They weren't as bitchy as I was.

    It's just as common for parents to get along well with each other as it is for parents to not get along. The dark and light sides of human nature are pretty much equal in strength. Don't be drawn into thinking that all marriages are filled with hate.

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