Is it normal to have often uncontrollable anger & lash out

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When I get mad, it happens so fast, I lose a lot of my rationality and act on impulsiveness. I also say things that are very inappropriate. I was fired from my job for telling a co-worker that I would kill her because she simply insulted me about a personal issue. I also threw some things that day. Immediately afterwards I am usually regretful and wish I hadn't acted foolish but it happens so quickly, when I get mad, I just don't care anymore. Sometimes I feel like I'm so close to choking my wife and I'll say stuff like "Do you want me to KILL YOU"?
I would never fatally hurt my wife as I love her a lot but verbal threats come very easy.
When I get mad I throw stuff around and once I stabbed my computer tower because it was going too slowly. I'm surprised I wasn't electrocuted but I was in my hot zone and didn't care.
I also drive aggressively. I just feel like I KNOW one of these days I'm going to road rage and ram someone off the road and beat them to a pulp.
I wasn't abused as a child and don't know where the anger comes from. Are some people naturally aggressive? Is that normal? If not, what can I do about it?

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    One of the things that separates humans from the other animals, is our self control. Your total lack of self control is going to make your life very, very difficult, as witnessed by your getting fired as above. Only you lose, if you act like an animal, instead of a rational adult human. Time to grow up.

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    • RainbowDischarge
      9 years ago

      I agree so much.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    You need anger management! You're very blessed to have your spouse and don't ever forget it because if someone ever talked that way to me it would be over. Most people don't put up with that kinda bullshit. If your wife ever gets fed up and leaves you you'll only have yourself to blame. Other people aren't obligated to put up with your temper tantrums. Now that you know you have a problem go get professional help.

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  • RainbowDischarge
    9 years ago

    I am the same exact way, but trying to change. Like gypsysailor said, its all self control. Eventually, you will see how your behavior effects everyone, especially loved ones. And you will get depressed, maybe hate yourself like I do. I am full of regret. I was diagnosed with some bullshit and was prescribed meds. I stopped taking them few years ago. I don't need them, and you might not either. I refuse to take them. I am responsible for my feelings and actions. I won't blame it on a mental disorder. You just need self control and a shit ton of it.

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  • mscurriouus
    9 years ago

    Go see a psychiatrist and see if they can help you figure out what's going on, and also give you something to give you more control of your impulsivity. Do it now, or you'll end up losing everyone and everything you love. Then what'll happen is you'll spiral down into a deep suicidal depression because all of the loss will be so painful.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    u might need a punching bag in your room , and one at work and one in your car

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  • Crusades
    9 years ago

    Ok so, choking your wife is understandable, but, stabbing your computer?! That's unreasonable behavior buddy!

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