Is it normal to have no real friends?

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I used to have meaningful deep relationships with friends I'd care about. However after a long period of having no friends after my closest friend betrayed me I'm disgusted and scared of who I am. I don't trust or like anyone anymore. It's like I've become bitter. :( the friends I have I only put up with them to mooch off them. (Free food, away from home, free items, free weed and free fun etc.)It's like I'm afraid they'll do the same and I'm tired of dealing with drama. The men I crush on are the only people who I'm not constantly thinking "how can I benefit from this relationship."They are always in positions of authority and I idealize them to the point of ridiculousness. If any one has any insights or advice if really appreciate it even if it's harsh. I really want to like people again. Thanks :)

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    It sounds like you are choosing to not have friends.

    You are admitting to using people, but fear they will use you. Do you realize how one sided that sounds?

    Friendships are a give and take relationship. It requires sharing for a real friendship to work.

    If you don't want friends that is fine, but don't expect anyone to be there for you when you weren't there for them.

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  • GroovyYoloSwag420BlazeItFaggot
    9 years ago

    ghey

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  • Reaper101
    9 years ago

    Happened to me only I never had friends I've always been worried they'll use me or pull the chair out from under me I've recently completely secluded myself it's not fun don't go down that far cause now I've burned all my bridges

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  • molk
    9 years ago

    that's my problem 2 :(

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  • Avi
    9 years ago

    It happens.I had a simmilar case,but now I want to discover new people that never saw me before,so they would never know the past me.

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  • daydreamer394
    9 years ago

    You've had a bad experience but not everybody is like that.
    Maybe get to know some people other than that horrible 'friend' before using them.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Nothing like living a life of pathological codependence, huh? I would recommend attending meetings of Codependents Anonymous, getting a good sponsor and working a program. Also it wouldn't hurt to see a therapist.

    http://coda.org/

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