Is it normal to have no idea what your orienation is at age 22?

Some people don't know their true sexuality until they are well into their life so don't go putting a time limit on it. (and it can also change, its not something coded into DNA or anything)

Being open to the idea of potentially being homosexual could help you explore yourself and work things out. Being open to the idea doesn't mean you will then be, it just means you'll allow yourself to think in that light, and allow yourself to think it may be a possibility, but like everything it may not be.

Whichever the answer is, it doesn't matter. You could even be asexual, it happens, and it's just you. It's not something to stress over, or be upset by, as you are what you are - nothing can change that - so just let it be and enjoy what you have.

The sooner you forget the things you don't have and focus on the things you do have, the happier you'll be in the long term. (My favourite quote for when I start to spiral.)

Maybe you should try watching porn/exploring yourself. Sex doesn't have to be a hookup, and even when it is it doesn't have to be bad. Porn also doesn't have to be disrespectful, maybe try 'female friendly' porn? They tend to be 'softer', you may enjoy it as it generally focusses on her pleasure rather than his, which judging by your compassion could be something for you?

Wishing you all the best.

Sounds pretty straight but if you worry so much there must be a few unwritten things that bother you. If you are curious about the same sex, boot up some god old internet porn and decide for yourself.

It's not strange to be unsure at all. I know people who are in their 40s and are just now realizing they're gay and I myself am 20 but just realized I'm pansexual. This is one of those things you're never going to really know until you fool around with some people.
If you're worried simply about someone thinking you were gay, that's not as big of a deal as you might think. If they've never seen you with a girl or even if they stereotype you, it doesn't mean you are gay. In fact, what you've written here is that you don't view men sexually and if that changes at some point, so be it!

You have a couple really good responses to your situation. I have always enjoyed the thegypsysailor as he is a person that has experienced many things in life and can give good advice. I thought the comments from the lonelygirlsx was appropriate as well. Personally, you sound straight and really like people. Your gay friend is an example of your true feelings toward people in general.
Good luck in your life. I think you will have a great one!

RELAX! You are working yourself into a frenzy for no good reason. If you want to figure out what turns you on, then you are going to have to try a few things. You are obviously so afraid of how you will be perceived by a lover you haven't had the strength to try sex. If you don't try sex, with either sex, you can't possibly understand any of it.
Since your major attraction seems to be towards girls, go out and get laid by some. Don't get all hung up on being a great lover (you aren't going to be even a good lover without practice), just relax and try to enjoy it. Forget what some stupid shit said in your past. If after having sex with a few women (one just won't do), if you find yourself fantasizing about having sex with guys, then go do that too. You will work it out, in time. But stop stressing about any of it, and for Neptune's sake don't make yourself sick over it.
Not that I know you at all, but from your post, you sound straight to me.

I don't know. I don't know what my orientation is either to be honest. I'm 21. For the longest I thought I was heterosexual but being heterosexual would imply that you are "sexual", not meaning sexually active, but that you have a desire for sex in some way, so that cancelled me out. Lately, I've been going by grey-asexual, but I'll probably find something wrong with that, too, at some point.

I guess it really just doesn't matter.

Asexual?

Your BF is hypnotising you

Take your daaaaamn time. Don't feel pressured! Experiment! I'm not saying go out and sleep with every person of any gender and orientation you see, but if you find yourself having feelings for a man, woman, whatever - that's totally cool.

You seem to be worrying over this excessively - don't. Breathe, relax. Take your time, nobody's rushing you to figure this out. Plus. Many people have very fluid sexualities - not the case with me, personally, so I can't expand on that but yeah.

Don't feel like you have to force yourself into a label. You don't HAVE to say, "I'm straight, I'm gay, I'm bi, I'm ace, etc. etc.". I consider myself asexual, but at the same time i still romantically like any gender (which somehow people are confused about, not sure why?) and then they'll say, "Ohhh, so you're ____!" And I'm like, bitch, no, I just happen to like men and women, and whatever else in between. So if you're not quite ready or comfortable fitting into something, that's totally cool.

You "sound" straight to me but given then you're at least considering this, you might just be curious, so don't worry about it. I'm not religious so it's probably not in my place, but I'd say not to let your religion "suffocate" you. Love you for who you are.

Why put an age limit on when you discover things? If it happens before or after someone else, it's no less odd.

Nothing about what you say is odd or weird. Instead, it's entirely human. You are entirely human and you're the same as the rest of us. Sorry to break it to you, but it's true. :)

I wouldn't worry about putting yourself in a category regarding your sexual orientation, just go with the flow of life and if you find someone -- regardless of gender -- that you enjoy being around, just be with them! However, if categorizing yourself is something important to you and helps you to understand yourself more, I'd say you're in the "Questioning" category.