Is it normal to have no idea how relationships work?

The problem is that you think to much. There's no rules for how a relationship is "supposed" to work. There's no plan that you have to lay down before you go out and start dating. You just have to try things out and do what works.

I remember when I was first in a relationship (about two years ago now. How time flies.) and I didn't know what to do, and how that feeling sapped my confidence. It made me feel a bit awkward and embarrassed and made me search for social expectation as a guide to behave because I couldn't work it out for myself. The problem with that solution is that the human variety is so rich that social expectations probably don't fit your individual wants and needs.

You have to be prepared to fail and get hurt. You have to accept the possibility that a guy won't respect you after you've have sex, you've got to accept the risk that he'll hurt you by leaving you once you're intimate with him. Wait as long as it takes to feel like the risk is minimal enough to feel comfortable, then do it. You have to be ready and willing to get hurt in the long run if you want to be happy and comfortable with anyone. The pain will always come eventually (sorry, it's true. Nothing lasts forever.) but it won't last forever. It won't even last as long as you think.

You've got to accept that your partner might not take rejection of intimacy well (and if he does take it badly, be prepared to leave him and be glad that you dodged a bullet). If you don't want something, say so. Put yourself in control of the situation and stand up for yourself. It's okay to be uncomfortable with intimacy and a partner worth having will not force you or make you feel uncomfortable about these feelings.

I hope any of that helped. I'm aware it's a chaotic, unorganised mess but I've tried to put some truth in it.

Listen girl,life is not how it shows in TV-serials,not how parents telling us,not how we expecting.Life is individual to everyone,in where can be just brave or a pu**y.If your pu*sy you follow everyone alse just to integrate and adapt betwen them and to not get questioned "why you diferent?".If your brave you go on your OWN way,and you find happiness.
There is no two same relationships,thats why makes us whant it,cuz always brings some new in our life,I wannted to find out how it works and how to conduct in them but still after 60 girlfriends I couldnt. I understood it,every man,every woman is diferent,and soon as you start know them,your relationship gets better or worst,so leave your fears and start experimenting,but dont forget the bigest fact:The truth hurst,chase it just if you feel strong enought to handle the pain.GoodLuck

Do what you like, everyone's different and every one has there opinions, but in the end it's you with your decisions alone that affect "your" life, and if the other person truly cares for you they will respect your wishes.

No one really knows how relationships work because everyone is different. You have to just roll with the punches and figure it out for yourself! :)

I think that you are too young to be asking these questions to yourself. You are only 19, so you should just have fun and do what you want to do. You shouldn't plan this too much, things will just happen naturally.

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There are no rules. None.
Just go with your gut.

Poles are good