Is it normal to have no contact with your mother?

Until today, I realized she has NPD. My mother, unhappily adopted and divorced 3 times. Lots of boyfriends along the way. I am a adult now but I was a child once. I am 32 and my mother once was the most beautiful, strong, woman I knew. And throughout childhood at times I felt pressure because I was the oldest of three and had the responsibility of an adult. I just wanted to get away from her and then love and protect her and I didn't know why.. I know now it was just was a facade. I hope to learn "no contact" I finally stood up for myself a couple years ago. I had a feeling she felt threatened by my boyfriend. They never fought but she uses him as an outlet for my new found independence. She never liked any of my boyfriends ever. He is successful, smart, kind, and great father to my daughter and has been for 8 years. When we became official she started to put everyone against me slowly planting seeds behind my back. Making me out to be selfish and egotistical. If you knew me you would know that is so far from what am. As a matter of a fact I have low self esteem and try to over compensate by giving to much... I was scared she was going to do this to my child. She did try... My daughter came home once and told me that grandma called you a witch. Puzzled by a lot of hear say moments from other people. I confronted her and every time she said It wasn't true.. The last straw was when she told my ex, who happens to get along with me really well.....! That she would go to court and help him get custody of our daughter. He got really upset about this and told me. I believed him! Was I dreaming... She told my sister I was a liar. I told her that we needed to work on our relationship first before she talked to my daughter. Then she told everyone that I wouldn't let her see my daughter unless she did wanted her to do. That was so far from truth... I just wanted to repair us! I felt my daughter was in danger at this point. I kept reaching out to her and my siblings even after they ganged up on me in an effort to have family. They all said the same sick comment... Don't contact me anymore.. I wasn't even invited to my own sisters wedding. Without even a phone call or explination. What ever family I had.. gone in a flash! And others dropped like flies around me... Any chance of knowing or talking to anyone I knew.. gone. I have been so confused for so long. And I couldn't even confide in anyone because I was scared of losing them too..They didn't want to even hear from me. Its like the guilt trip was more important to them them than family.. I felt guilt... But for what? And I kept trying.... I finally got a call. And I was so kind to her and asked her about her. She talked the whole time and I listened..... The thing is, she didn't ask ago about me. She did many things to me I haven't mentioned but what I have learned is why I am the way I am. Once Lonely child, acting out attention seeking teenager...Ex-stripper (not prostitute thank god!) not a drug addict ever....thank god! Stay at home loving wife and mom now! And now I know why things happened the way they did. I thought it was me! I took her to therapy once and she couldn't handle what the therapist was asking... I wanted to go again and again.. but I have to love me again... not her. http://daughtersofnarcissisticmothers.com/no-contact.html