Is it normal to have no connection with your fiancé

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My partner and I have been together for over 10 years. We have 2 kids and we're both on our early 30s. I still love him but he has changed a lot over the past year and it has come to a point where I have lost interest in sex because it has become more of a chore than love making. I don't know if he is cheating or not but things are not the same and it is getting worse everyday. We've tried to understand the root of this problem but we never really found anything as he always say there is nothing wrong and he believes that everything is fine. I love him and want to please him but my body and mind just can't and I don't know what to do anymore.

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  • Whatintarnation
    2 years ago

    If you guys have kids together, try and go to therapy for their sake at least.

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  • techpc
    2 years ago

    Go to couples therapy, there are surely many details that you are not able to put into words here.

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  • Masisi86
    2 years ago

    Thanks guys for all your advices. I'll be trying to do whatever I can to make this work. God Bless

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  • olderdude-xx
    2 years ago

    I understand.

    Please get 2 copies of the book: "The 5 Love Languages" by Gary Chapman.

    That book most likely explains the loss of interest between you two (about 85% of cases).

    Each of you gets their own book... and each of you will likely read it at a different pace. That's OK.

    Tell you spouse that you would like to repair your relationship and this book is a good start; and a lot cheaper than marriage counseling.

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    • Masisi86
      2 years ago

      Thank you so much, I'll definitely try that. Thanks again

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      • olderdude-xx
        2 years ago

        Your welcome.

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  • 1WeirdGuy
    2 years ago

    Its not like the movies. I think some women got lied to by hollywood and fairy tales of princesses and shit. Love is boring, annoying, fun, rewarding, and terrible all at the same time. You have kids now you have to get over it for them. Its not all about you. The butterflies will never last with anyone you marry.

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