Is it normal to have nightmares like this about my dead friend?

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My close friend died about 8 months ago in tragic and somewhat unexplained circumstances. For ages I never dreamt about him, and I really wanted to because I missed him so much I just wanted to see him. About 4 months after he died I dreamt that he was sitting on my bed talking to me, and we both sort of became aware that he was dead and got to say goodbye kinda and all that sort of thing. It felt really healing for me (hippyish as that sounds). As he was cremated and I'm quite sensitive about these things, I was worried I'd have dreams of him burning or something but I never did and I never felt scared or anything, just sad.

However, now 8 months since he died and I have recently started having terrible nightmares about him. For example, last night I dreamt that I was keeping his corpse in my room. After a few days (in the dream) I realised that it was starting to mold but I couldn't move him (he was 6"8 when he was alive) so I was trapped in the room with his body and very afraid.

It feels treacherous even writing about these nightmares because I don't want to view someone I loved so much as an object of fear..why am I suddenly having these dreams? What could they mean? How can I stop them? IIN?

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    I'm sorry for your loss. I know how it is.
    You're not a bad person. I've had these kinds of dreams before and you seem so brave about it. Anyway you're not viewing this person as an object of fear; you're viewing this person's death as an object of fear. Its a terrifying topic... If you need someone to talk to about it i could try to help <3

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    • techgirl
      10 years ago

      jakk225, you are amazing!

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    Dead people suck.

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  • [Old Memory]
    13 years ago

    when your ready for sleep ask "tell me what i need to know about ----" and see what your subconcious tells you during the night

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  • Ldizzy1234
    13 years ago

    It's possible that the first dream you had of him where you guy's were saying goodbye, could have been him paying you a visit in your dream, and then that dream got you thinking. So from then on you have been subconsciously thinking about him, therefore dreaming about him. It's sound's like a part of you is a little scared too. Don't worry, you're friend probably wouldn't wanna see you upset like this. And blithe is right. You're probably searching for closure. Talking to someone(psychologist) about this might take a lot of weight off of your shoulder's.

    Don't worry too much about it. Death is out of everyone's hand's. I wish you the best of luck!

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  • blithe
    13 years ago

    Perhaps you need closure. Maybe you should try to accept your friends death and try to put it in the past so it stops affecting you in a negative way.

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