Is it normal to have never had sex or a relationship at 28?

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I'm male, have a good job, and live away from home. I've never had sex, never had a girlfriend, and it's beginning to make me go a bit crazy.

I'm just worried that with most others having more experience at this point in life that I'll be rejected or given a 'red flag' simply based on the fact that I've never had a relationship or had sex, which would only perpetuate the cycle (I don't offer the information up willingly, but it can be painfully obvious that I have no idea what I'm doing dating wise - especially when it comes time to get into the bedroom).

Is it normal to have never had sex or a real relationship at this point in life? ...am I too late?

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Based on 157 votes (84 yes)
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  • ThisIsImpossible
    10 years ago | pl

    Too late? For what? Its just like any other skill, age has nothing to do with knowledge for almost any skill. Wanna get good at it, learn about it and practice it. Put an ad on craigslist saying youre a virgin or that youre looking for an older woman to show you the ropes. That might be a bit racey for you, there are also plenty of women saving their virginity for marriage, if that suits your personality better just wait until you're married. Its notas big a deal as you think it is and its no reason to give up, because if you still want to, you will never be satisfied with not trying, only regret comes with admitting defeat.

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    • 69
      10 years ago

      this is great advice. one more thing i'd add is that there are probably plenty of women who would find that endearing and want to have a relationship with someone who has practically no baggage relationship-wise

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      • DragonQueen
        10 years ago

        How long did it take you to think of that name. one second. Moron!

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      • LundaiCocoaDelight20
        7 years ago

        Truth- a 21 year old virgin

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      Well said.

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    • Hoppy1943
      10 years ago

      Using this to put my comment at the top!
      Did you know the bible is the most printed book in history?
      Did you know the bible has the most historically correct info also?
      The word of God says to wait until married, as sex was created for two purposes, to be enjoyed by the married and to give life on this earth. Now, the common crowd can bombard me with their "the bible is old fashioned" bs. i cant make you believe but this is only what the bible says as Jesus speaks many times of sexual imorality. I have had trouble with lust but again, i didnt say this, God did!

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      • charli.m
        10 years ago

        "Using this to put my comment at the top!"

        Then you're abusing the reply button, and really should be reported.

        Unless you're genuinely replying to the person you're replying to, reply normally.

        If your ego can't handle the fact that it might not get thumbed to the top, you're posting for the wrong reasons.

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        • Hoppy1943
          10 years ago

          Hey buddy you report me. I have a life so i mean wtf...i will find something else to do. Another thing, my "ego." I dont have one i dont make friends well and i dont really believe in myself so...You can cry somewhere else. you should apply to be mod. you like that

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  • daydreamer394
    9 years ago

    It is fine.
    I am female and find it quite admirable.

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  • st2013de
    10 years ago

    Boo hoo. Get off your bum and go and find one instead of posting about it. There are so many gross, loser people who lose their virginity, have partners and are married. You are just lazy. Anyone can find a partner.

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  • thegypsysailor
    10 years ago

    First off, it's not too late at all. I had one girlfriend who quit being a nun and at 27, she was a virgin at all of it; never even been out on a date. She became a rather demanding lover, but we had fun, a lot!
    You really have got to get yourself in gear. Start asking girls out. You may get rejected, and yes, it hurts us all, not just you, but sooner or later someone will accept. I would heartily suggest that you take any first date out to a comedy club. They usually serve drinks and decent food, but not too expensive or too exotic (sushi, Korean, Ethiopian, etc) and that difficult first date conversation will be at a minimum. The comics will do the entertaining, so you won't have to.
    I believe the most preferred trait that women like in a man, is a good sense of humor, so this is a good start.
    Don't be too worried about what to do after the date, chances are that you can take your cues from your date. Don't expect too much and don't run off if things go better than expected. Be honest and relax; we all had a first time and though few of us were stellar performers, we got that first one out of the way and survived to do it another time, and another, and another, and another, and another..........

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  • PhillipLoco
    7 years ago

    You must be ugly as fuck LOL

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  • Nokiot9
    9 years ago

    Wow. Not gonna knock ur life decisions, but I think ur missing out on an integral part of being alive. What's the point of being human, and being able to feel such wonderful, heavenly, awe inspiring things? Sex is absolutely incredible. Feels amazing, reduces stress/pain/inflammation, helps bind hearts together, lowers blood pressure and for men; helps reduce the likelyhood of prostate cancer.

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  • TheMightyOz
    10 years ago

    Dude. You need a cougar. Tell her you trust her desires and want her to teach you to be naughty. Keep good eye contact, smile when she smiles.

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  • SticksAndStones
    10 years ago

    It's honestly less about the sex and more about wanting a real relationship. Sex is a huge part of that, but I don't want to just post an ad on Craigslist or hire a hooker because I know that there would be no substance to it...I want someone to want me for who I am, not because I can pay them for the deed.

    It's just begun to feel as though I'm ugly inside and out since I cant find anyone willing to date me - much less have sex with me. It's really starting to affect my self worth and self esteem...is that relatable to anyone at all?

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    • LundaiCocoaDelight20
      7 years ago

      It's adorable and admirable -21 year old virgin

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  • DragonQueen
    10 years ago

    Answer please, I wanna know your pain. Tell the Queen. And she'll help you.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I recommend getting a hooker off craigslist. Just make sure to use protection.

    I suggested this because having female interaction will make you more used to women in other situations.

    Every time I have had sex with another girl I gain better social skills with females. I had almost no sexual contact until I was 20 when I got my first real girlfriend and lost my virginity. Now that I'm 29 I have more female friends than any guy I know, and I'm technically socially retarded.

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    • [Old Memory]
      10 years ago

      Also even if you do not wish to have sex with hookers off craigslist, simply save up some money and hire one to go on a date with. They will be more than glad to take your offer. Hookers are great for things besides sex such as female interaction practice. Hire different ones until you find one you get along with well.

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  • Cherrybombpieee
    10 years ago

    Stop wasting ur time writing this and go get laid u pathetic loser

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  • Sog
    10 years ago

    You won't get "figured out" if you pretend to have more experience than you do. Some people are just naturally clutzy and some women find that cute even.

    I never told the girl I was with that it was my first time and she didn't figure me out and go screaming out if the bedroom.

    And you must know that a little confidence goes a long way, even if it's just the illusion of confidence.

    Fake it till you make it.

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    • SkullsNRoses
      10 years ago

      Faking it could lead to a lot of potential embarrassment, I'd say just be honest if they ask about your virginity. As 69 said lots of women will like that you don't have baggage and see it as a sign that you're not a player.

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  • YourMomSaysHello
    10 years ago

    Let me tell you something. If you didn't find anyone yet, at 28, then you will never find anyone in the future!

    What loser in this day and age walks around being a virgin at 28?!

    You are a failure!

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  • DragonQueen
    10 years ago

    Is it because your parents traumatized you?

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