Is it normal to have low self-esteem because i am bald?

So I'm 23 guy. Until 2 years ago, I couldn't get enough from being called handsome or sexy. I was happy and couldn't be otherwise. That's when my hair had fallen in amounts that made my head look ugly on the crown. I and those close to me thought it'd be better if I trim it very short, or even shave it and I did.
Since then, I had much less compliments, less girls would like to talk to me, and I began to think that people are treating me in a less respectful way. Every attempt to regrow my hair has failed, and I can't afford the very costy hair transplant. This have affected my esteem, and I gotta say this low self-esteem issue made a super-effect that made me yet less admirable.
is it normal that I'm having such low esteem in this situation?
Thanks

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  • InsertUsername

    Hey, no need to worry. Do you really think girls were attracted to you solely for your hair? Self confidence is really attractive ;) You don't want a girl that wants you solely for you hair anyway. Don't feel so down, plenty of guys go bald.

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  • 1000yrVampireKing

    Yeah this is a big issue with men. I know you feel bad your hair is gone but it does not mean you are any less of a person. Keep your head up some chicks find bald guys hot. If you only are getting hair on the side but not top of your head take all of it off so you can just say you shave your head. That is what my pa did.

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  • Bijoofoo

    I never understood the obsession with hair that men have. I know everyone has their weird issues, like girls and their breasts. But really, I don't even notice either (baldness or breasts). I think I tend to notice eyes, smile and personality as cliche as it is. If you're balding and confident, you're even more awesome because you realize the amount of hair you have doesn't define your character. Confidence overrides any physical characteristic. On a sidenote, you could shave your head ;) that looks good on a lot of guys.

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  • Ldizzy1234

    A lot of guys nowadays seem to be balding earlier. Nothing wrong with that though. I've seen some good looking guys that were bald. Whether they were bald by choice or not, I thought they still looked attractive.

    You're probably still just trying to get used to it, or you're just overthinking it since its such a difference. Be more confident though. I'm sure the ladies will love you just as much as they did when you had hair. And if they don't, they're simply not worth your time.

    Everybody goes through changes in appearance from time to time. I just changed my hair color back to something a little bit more closer to my natural color, and it is noticeably different from how it was for years. I am still trying to get used to having this color again. And I am a little uncomfortable, but I did get some compliments this week, so maybe its not so bad after all. The problem is; we worry way too much about what others think about us.

    You probably feel as though you're going through an awkward spell, because its different and out of your comfort zone. Any kind of change usually needs a little time to get used to, and when it concerns your appearance, it can take other people time to get used to it as well.

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  • One of my friends is bald(ing) at the age of 21 and he has a wonderful fiancee and women are always hitting on him.

    Shave it off and go bald to be badass.

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  • tinahn

    I know how you feel...
    I lost all my hair when I was 3 years old (I'm a girl), so it's been almost 16 years. I am not comfortable with myself without hair, never have been, probably never will be. A hair transplant is super expensive i know, but that seems to be the only option for me to get it back, otherwise i don't think it's possible in my case. So I will just have to keep wearing wigs on a daily basis. I started wearing wigs when I was 10 so before that I didn't have a single one. Most people thought I was a boy when I was little, didn't make me feel better. Though it didn't bother me that much when I was a kid, but now I would do ANYTHING to get my hair back, even though I don't remember what it was like when I still had it.
    And that you don't get as many compliments anymore, I don't know why but most girls/women like guys with nice hair. But the inside is important too, if you are a nice guy you'll find a girl who loves you for you anyway :) (some girl would probably fall for you even if you're not a nice guy ^^)

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  • brosif

    I wouldnt worry alot of girls are attracted to bald men anyway. If your that self concious about it you could always buy a wig

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    • robbieforgotpw

      Preferably one with a chin strap...

      I thinned early and have a bald spot in back, thin on top. I keep it short. It tlook a little time to accept it but you want a woman who loves you for you anyway.

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