Is it normal to have hope for this

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Is it normal to have hope that my boyfriends mom will eventaully stop treating me bad?
She LOVES her youngest sons girlfriend to pieces! She always talks about her and hnags out with her. I always haft to ask to hang out at my boyfriends house. His girlfriend can go over there as early as she wants! I always been respectful and sweet. I always try to find the good in her but its hard. She used to think i was stuck up for not going to his house for 6 months when me and my boyfriend started dating. I am really shy and i try to stay pure to my relationship. I want to be close with her because I dont have a mom myself. I want her to except me for me. When her and her youngest son and girlfriend broke up and she always talked about how she wants them back together because thats her "adopted daughter". She says I am but I dont see it because she doesnt really talk much to me. Her and her youngest son got in a fight a while back and he was saying how his mom always hangs out with (me) elizabeth more than my girlfriend. And she said NO I hang out with yourf girlfriend more than Elizabeth (me).
I cant say anything to her because she is very sensitive and will yell at me and make me feel like crap.

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  • ProseAthlete
    11 years ago

    Of course it's normal to want her to like you. Who wouldn't rather be loved?

    She sounds like kind of a difficult person, though, and maybe you need to think of her as an acquaintance rather than a friend or an adopted mom. Be kind to her and keep working to make the relationship with her a good one, but try not to tie yourself too closely to her moods and whims.

    No one else's mom should be yelling at you. Period. If that happens regularly, you really need to distance yourself from her. Give her credit for raising a great son and accept that the best you might get with her is civility, not friendship.

    In other words, she's the problem, not you.

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  • Ldizzy1234
    11 years ago

    I agree with ProseAthlete.

    There's really no reason why she should be acting this way towards you. She just sounds difficult.

    Maybe she actually likes your boyfriend better than her other son, and she's one of those jealous mothers. She might be afraid your taking her 'precious boy' away from her. Or maybe she's just closer to the other girlfriend because she's been there longer? Has she been around longer?

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    maybe she hates you because you sound dumb

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  • crygypsy
    11 years ago

    At least she isn't a bi-polar crackhead that constantly yells and screams at you. At least you don't shrink back when you see her nasty anorexic, dark circled face glaring at you from the front porch. At least you don't have to watch the house to see if she's gone to the grocery store so you can run inside real quick and snag your boyfriend. True story.

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    I have an issue milder than that to. I just accept it for what it is. So we're not besties and she likes my bfs brother girlfriend more. I'm shy, she's outgoing. It happens. I'm me, and life goes on. It really does suck, but sometimes things just don't go how you want them to... Doesn't help that his step dad not only doesn't like me, but full blown hates me. ~.~ Aahhh relationships... so much fun sometimes.

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  • squeallikeasacofpigs
    11 years ago

    Stop caring so much dude, she certainly doesn't. Why waste you time with that bs.

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