Is it normal to have given up on his addiction?
This is a long story so bear with me!
I know this boy, we'll call him Bob. I have known Bob for 5 years now. I was friends with his older brother at first and I remember going to his house and hanging out a lot. During this time I would go into Bob's room and talk to him. He was a cute, quiet kid with a love for gaming. Eventually our friendship flourished. We would acknowledge each other in the halls of the school and even hang out sometimes! In grade 12 I was in an open-grade art class and Bob was in it with me. One day as I was painting, Bob came up to me and nudged me. He said, "wanna ditch class with me?" and as he said that he opened his palm in front of me. In his hand had to have been at least 12 prescribed pain killers. As a recovering addict myself I quickly declined. He shrugged and left the room. He actually ended up coming back, but he was very incoherent. Little did I know that Bob had been abusing pain killers for a month now. I started hanging out with him A LOT to monitor his habits. I had a car so every time he asked me to take him to the dealer, I wouldn't. I would just smoke him on a joint and talk him out of it. It went well for a while, until he started selling drugs himself. He relapsed, badly. His cousin showed him cocaine and Bob loved it. Bob spent less time with me, but I continually tried to get him out of it. He got kicked out and I gave him and his girlfriend a place to stay. All he did was snort coke and that's the only thing that mattered to him. He was in deep. Bob and I also share mutual friend, we'll call him Louis. Louis had been his friend since they were little and was really struggling trying to keep Bob on track. Long story short, Louis and I managed to get him clean 10 different times, only for him to relapse after each. He's overdosed, almost died, the whole bit, yet he will not listen to me and Louis. Louis left a long time ago, he said he couldn't deal with it. I don't blame him, he put up with a lot of stuff from Bob. Recently Bob tried to kill himself because he relapsed AGAIN and the drugs made him do it. He is very emotionally stable and will not allow us to help him. I am still his friend, but I can no longer invest so much time and energy in a guy who does not want help. Is it normal that I have given up?
PS. I cannot count how many times I have flushed all of his drugs down the toilet. It didn't matter to him, he would go out and get more some how.