Is it normal to have extremely high standards?

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Okay so, I found a girl like a year or two ago when I was 16, I thought she was the one, I know it sounds crazy for being so young but it just felt right when I was with her, I knew her for like a month and a half and we made out and hung out for like a month before I found out she had a boyfriend but she dumped him for me, we truly dated for like 3 days, I don't know what happened, we hung out at my house the first day and towards the end we were making out on the sofa and I started feeling her up and she was grabbing me back but then her Dad got there so we had to stop, next day at school she kissed me, went to class, after class, she gave me back my jacket I gave her, kissed me and dumped me, I went into a sort of bad depression for almost 8-9 months, no cutting, just kind of felt sad and like time was dragging and I finally got better but ever since then, my standards seem to have grown light years ahead of what they used to be, I thought she was absolute perfection and I just can't find anyone I like even close to as much as I liked her. I just feel so lonely love wise nowadays without someone to kiss and hug and I just can't find a girl that lives up to my standards, is there anyway to lower them and I just want to know if this is normal.

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  • myboyfriendsbitch
    10 years ago | pl

    3 day fling = 9 months of depression?

    I think you need to focus on YOU, man.

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  • Paradiddle
    10 years ago | pl

    I know people handle things differently and this very well could be a true story but if it is...seriously? It was just 3 darn days, hardly enough time to form a serious bond that people do within several years of being together. Think about it like this. She was enough of a user to dump her bf to go with you for such a short time (who was already cheating on him with you apparently), share some spit, and then drop you. While you were sitting there sad for 9 months, she wasn't thinking about you in the slightest and if she did, she was laughing. You didn't lose perfection, you lost trash that you should be HAPPY isn't in your life anymore. A normal person would have laughed in her face or called her all sorts of insults. If this is true, don't be that weak.

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    • chewy
      10 years ago

      You are a good friend :)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Never thought of it that way lol

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Stop aiming for perfection it doesn't exist.

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    • AnonJoe
      10 years ago

      Agreed! OP, part of being in a relationship is accepting the flaws in your mate.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      I did find perfection but I lost it lol

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      • Terence_the_viking
        10 years ago

        Aaah no.

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      • disthing
        10 years ago

        Clearly she wasn't the perfect girl, or she would have felt the same way about you. Isn't perfection an ideal partner who reciprocates your love?

        Oh and you didn't lose it, it dumped you. After 3 days.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    ...She's a cheater, yet she's perfection?........Perfection isn't what it used to be.

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  • Beastmode
    10 years ago

    This would be a different case if you were older and had a serious relationship with this girl, not 3 days. You have so much life ahead of you and so many bitches to fuck that in the future your probably going to look back at this and slap yourself hard in the balls for falling for this stupid teenage girl who btw, needs better parenting because she is just jumping from one guy to the next very quickly. You should consider yourself to be lucky she isn't part of your life anymore, and take it as a life lesson. I suggest you keep your shit together and love will find itself when you have a clearer view and more of a understanding of what you really want.

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  • Holzman67
    10 years ago

    Let her go man let her go. Stop the comparisons. You'll be all the better for it.

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    You sound like a dumbass. Next time you get to know a girl remember that however they were with their ex's is most likely how they will be with you.

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  • Dot123
    10 years ago

    I love women who like to get high. You could say I have high standards.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      I like getting high too.

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  • Wuggums47
    10 years ago

    Eventually you will find someone who is just like her, only better because she isn't a total jerk.

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  • Itmaybenormal
    10 years ago

    Sometimes girls are sluts ajajajajaaj

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  • ccjigsaw
    10 years ago

    Sounds to me like standards are good in your case. Learn form this. If you don't have standards you're just going to end up with another girl who wants to break you. I think nearly everyone can say they've dated a real loser. That loser was put there in your life so that you know what a looser looks like and you can steer clear next time. I know you think you love her etc.. but you now have the chance to find yourself a much better girl than her

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    Well, what IS your standards? What did you like so much about this girl?

    Sort of hard for me to know if you are having far too high standards or perfecly normal ones.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      10 years ago

      Her hair (curly like lasagna things), her voice, her eyes (blue), and her smile, that's about it.

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      • Shoefish
        10 years ago

        I urge you to write a poem about her curly lasagne hair.

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      • disthing
        10 years ago

        When is lasagne curly? :/

        Also, they're entirely superficial aspects. You liked her because she looked pretty and sounded pretty. No wonder it didn't last long if the last thing that comes to your mind when considering what you liked about her is anything to do with her personality.

        If you wait until you find a girl whose personality fits with yours, then you're less likely to be dropped.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3341/3191058373_a5d56c6710.jpg That's what I mean.

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          • disthing
            10 years ago

            Ah I see! Makes sense :)

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      • (s)aint
        10 years ago

        Meh, you'll be fine with those standards.

        But you shouldn't seek to replace her with someone who reminds you of her, but rather find something BETTER.

        The boys i've fallen for all have some similarities to their personalities, and it's fine to have your type- I bet that we all do.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          10 years ago

          I think what I liked most about her was she wasn't fake, she didn't wear much makeup, she didn't straighten her hair, she didn't act like a air headed bimbo when she was with me, I just like that she kept it like normal with me as opposed to chicks who put on makeup till they look like clowns and straighten their hair until you could snap it in half like a cracker and are stupid and rely solely on looks to get them past in life. Understand what I'm saying?

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          • (s)aint
            10 years ago

            You fall for natural girls, yeah.

            I have no idea how old you are or how old the chicks you usually hang out with are, but it gets a bit better as you get older and they mature some.

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          • AnonJoe
            10 years ago

            Um dude, she cheated on her boyfriend with you... I think that sounds pretty fake. You are lucky he didn't kick your ass. You are young, you will get over it. And then you will find the right chick or dude someday.

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  • imadragon
    10 years ago

    You need to understand that love won't come when yo ask for it. It might take a lifetime to find it.

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  • Larrybird
    10 years ago

    I had sex with my own turd so quit your bitching.

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