Is it normal to have emotional problems

I am 18 and i have a girlfriend that is the same age as me and i have always had a problem with her maturity level or I might have emotional problems i don't really know. My girlfriend has never really been exposed to the outside world by which i mean that she has never been able to do what ever she has wanted to do when she was little and she has the personality of a 10 year old she will laugh really loudly at a movie theater she kinda acts like we are still in high school but we are both in college but she is in a different town than i am for her university where she is always around new people and making new friends where i go to community college where there are people who don't know you and dont want to know you. I had always told her that she has immaturity problems that are kinda affecting me because my father who is divorced from my mom had never really told me anything about being a man or anything like that and he has the same maturity level as my girlfriend and I would tell her that stuff and I would have problems of what to say because I have ADD(Attention Defecit Disorder)and I had problems with talking but not with sight. I would end up saying that I have problems with everything and it ends up being other people feeling sorry for me which I absolutley hate because my father had always done that shit and Im afraid im turning into my father who acts like im his distant friend who would never call me I would have to call him but I only need money from him because he always plays these denial games. He claims he is gay but i now for certain he is mentaly ill and has sex addiction, and recently I have feelings of wanting to beat the shit out of homosexuals but the thing is i feel like im becoming one of them and i really dont want to be one of them because it would make me like my father and I am extremely against homosexuality. But I how do I know if my girlfriend really is immature or its the emotional damage caused by my father. I had recently lost my job which is problem for me because i had that job mostly because it was a way to meet new people I have become a complete shut-in where i dont really do very many social things out of the house and I even dont go to my classes sometimes. Please tell me what i should do.

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  • Jbeiberhole69

    U need a nice big hug

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  • JessicaWabbit

    If your girlfriend says no, explain to her why you need her to. To sort out your relationships and problems. If she still says no i dont think she cares a great deal about you.

    If you cant afford it, then go through your doctor. Explain that you've had a few problems and would like to speak to someone.

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  • readit7

    it sounds to me your in need for a big change, since your asking opinions, ill give you my own personal words rather it will a help or not. I personally think you should really consider doing some more detail type self-assesment on yourself & your life wants/needs ingeneral. sounds like your going through a rough spot right now, WICH IS NORMAL, WE ALL DO at some point just in diffrent ways & how we deal with the crisis that makes or breaks us in life! How ever, like your gf,.. i to was very sheltered to some extent but maybe in a diffrent way then her it sounds? & i am now a 23 adult & just feeling ready for the REAL WORLD as of now! its really never too late to start over again! it just takes alot of time & to be fully honest, 'failure' to get where we all should be in life! i have also grown up with no dad that still doesnt & never has bothered to speak to me in any way along with a dis-functional single-mother household family & so on.. the list goes on.
    but my advice to you: try to follow your own self [your gut feeling], because overall only YOU know whats best for you in the end result, including if the people you associate with are the RIGTH FIT for you or not to be with.. also to try to look for the positives in life no matter how over bearing it can get.. try maybe goin to the gym? getting a full time job or a job on weekend to get you out of trouble & drama plus you will be making better money on weekends also ;), or make it a goal to just focus on your school more, read more maybe? or therapy may be able to help more deeper with some of these issues, church/religion, prayer? those are just some simple suggestions that maybe dont solve your situation but can help you in the mean time well trying to better yourself during this crazy time! either way, i wish you the best of luck with your circumstance..

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  • JessicaWabbit

    Hi, i think you have alot of things on your mind. Everyones feelings are normal, because thats just how you are.
    I think you should take your girlfriend and go talk to a councillor and try to sort things out. They have alot of answers and alot of time.
    Also i think you should go see one on your own and maybe talk about your dad and just your life in general.

    I hope this helps.

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