Is it normal to have different personalities around different people?

Is it normal that I have carefully designed multiple personalities and I switch between them when I'm around different people?

There's one for my parents and two for two different groups of friends. When I meet new people, I'm first very passive and quiet, since I need time to come up with a personality they might like. Of course these personalities are not completely fake, they are just tweaked versions of the real me.

I think I started doing this around high school. Back then I had some problems with a few friends. Nowadays I have no problems in joining a new group of people and nobody knows my deepest thoughts, which gives me the space I need.

Only problem is that it's very stressful.

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  • KeepSmiling

    You're an Introvert!!!

    Google the definition (: I'm exactly the same way.
    The thing I find, is you need to find one person who you can be anything with.
    I found my boyfriend, we've been dating for two years now and I could be anyone around him, he loves me for every bit of it!

    I know the personality changing can be stressful, but you're an observer. You watch people and think over their actions to best accommodate their personality. This isn't necessarily a bad thing.

    It could be a wonderful thing you can relate to everyone in your own way. Alot of people will appreciate that you're so open minded and you try to think and feel a little how they do.
    , as long as you don't change around bad influences. If you have a friend who makes bad choices and you change just to accommodate their actions, DON'T.

    Good Luck!!

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  • EPiCPiE

    Those who say no are liars When im near my best friend i act wacky... When near someone say a random dude i dont say anything at all... Not stressful at all i think its fun when the random dude and my bestfriend are standing next to eachother i come up with a really wierd combo of the two personality...

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  • Redliner

    I don't think this is normal. I only have one personality with each person I meet, I'm always myself and never accommodate my character to form connections with anyone. If they don't like me for me than that's okay.

    A lot of people tend to do this type of thing when they are around certain individuals, so I would say it's acceptable (at least socially), but not normal in my definition. I just tend to think this makes people fake, but that's just an opinion and shouldn't be taken to heart.

    Personality comes from the Greek word persona, and persona literally means mask. Or in words you never really get to actually know someone because they are hiding behind a mask.

    Cheers,

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  • kellstar79

    The only thing I do is be myself around people. Meeting new people I'm usually shy but I don't have different personalities for different people. Sounds weird to me but I think you'd be fun

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  • Fozmula

    Yep. I sometimes wonder how I would act among people from two different social groups at the same time.

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  • katsu

    Yes, it's called 'The Chameleon Complex'.

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  • radiatelove

    i find it bizarre and boring if a person acts the same way around everyone because this probably means that they don't really do things that their parents or total strangers might find unacceptable. if i acted the same way i do around my friends around a complete stranger they would probably think i was the most bizarre person. i don't think this is being fake at all since you're just adapting to each situation and trying to find common ground with each different person. you're not going to talk about the same things or do the same things you would do with your parents with your best friend and you're not going to be the same person around your significant other as you would be around a total stranger or a teacher. i think that this is just knowing your boundaries and how to act properly around each person in order to make them feel comfortable and not intimidated or weirded out.

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