Is it normal to have dark (ish) fantasies?

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Okay look, I have no idea what to put here. I recently made a relization that I probably shouldve made sooner. Where to start, I just recently started getting sexually active (I am of age please dont attack me) and well not exactly my choice but its whatever. Recently I was asked what I think about while I masturbate, and well ive never really thought about it much so it was an interesting question. It didnt take me very long to realize maybe just maybe that isnt really a normal thing to think about. Alot of people just rely on porn and such when they are alone but I personally cant get off to it. Of course I can look at it while using my handy dandy Vibrator but it doesnt do it for me, If I were to cum will doing that Itd take foreverrr. Well okay im rambling, I fantasise about Non consensual things. its not like I want to or anything because It brings back alot of unwanted memories, but Its the only way I can cum. My first partner was an abusive dick who didnt take no as an answer and im pretty sure thats why this is happening but its terrible. everytime I have sex In order to feel idk good? I need to be choked or degraded. Id like to say im a Masochist but Its not the pain that I like, I hate pain actually, Its the fact that someone else is giving it to me. that they are controlling me and doing something I dont like. but what im trying to get at is it normal to relive that shit over and over again each time something sexual happens and is it normal for it to be the only way I can get off? I get so sad and depressed after sex but yknow sex is great and I just ughhhh. sorry, please tell me what you think Im dying to know.

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  • yesdaddy101
    4 years ago

    I think you never really faced those issues deeply and they are translated into sexual acts especially since that is all you know wheres some people just have those fantasies because that's how they seek pleasure and is a thing in a trusting relationship where one knows were not to go far o think it's an unhealthy coping mechanism for that trauma when you have sex and maybe something you could see a psychologist about which is nothing g to ashamed of but because of this trauma it may be something. youd want to see someone about but theres nothing wrong with you I was also in an abusive relationship so I understand

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  • Ichabuskene
    4 years ago

    I think in a domineering relationship trust is important. There's nothing wrong with finding pleasure in those activities, but you don't actually deserve to be treated that way. You might want to face your trauma head on for a healthier sex life in the future.

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  • cipro
    4 years ago

    Yes that is normal and also hot.

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  • Doesnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    Your sexual function seems pretty impaired. If you actually do enjoy masiochism and sudmission during sex than you would not feel depressed after sex.

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