Is it normal to have cried when i lost it?

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So when I lost it to my boyfriend I cried. It just hurt really bad I felt like someone was cutting my insides. It was the worst pain I've ever felt.
Then the second time wasn't so bad, but I still cried. And so I did on the third time. The fourth was the best though. Because I just teared up and I didn't cry cry. I haven't been past the fourth so I hope the fifth goes well.
But is it normal? Did anyone cry?
I'm embarrassed with my BF because he had to see me cry..like a baby and it really sucks because I hear stories about his friends' GF's who said it hurt but didn't cry, which just makes me feel lame-eer.

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  • TerryVie
    11 years ago

    it's normal. He's probably also not very experienced?

    My first time was awful. It hurt a lot, and he obviously was learning by doing.
    Now, i know "trying it with someone more experienced" is not really an option if you're a couple, but rest assured that it will get better as you both learn more about it.

    A common "mistake" of young guys is the expectation they have to start in medias res...that is, slide it in all the way and start pumping. It may be more "enjoyable" if you extend that process a bit, if he goes in slow and giving you time to adapt, pausing a few times...he can play with your breasts meanwhile and stuff. Also make sure you are properly lubricated, if you don't get sufficiently wet by yourself(can happen because you are tensed up, for example) or he doesn't "waste time on foreplay" use a lube...
    once you get "irritated" there to the point of pain that makes you cry, it's hard to get back on track.
    I like a BIT of pain myself, but it's a narrow ledge unless you know your body very well.

    As for your boyfriend, even if he feels bad, it may also feel empowering...many guys have domination phantasies, and you are his helpless crying victim there...like, not every guy is like that, but from time to time it could be enjoyable to him.

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    • sweetpea29
      11 years ago

      Nohe wasn't experienced we both lost it to each other (: it's nice to know some other girl's first time was bad too! I mean not that I'm glad you had a bad time, just makes me feel less of a lameo and more of a normal person.
      I don't know if he did feel empowering, but he was nice, patient, and understanding all those times and I thank him for that<3
      I appreciate that you took the time to give advice! (I noticed some people are a holes here).
      thanks:) I will concider everything for next time

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    • Shackleford96
      11 years ago

      You are incredible, you know that?

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      • TerryVie
        11 years ago

        i did not know that
        but thanks, i guess? ^_^
        glad someone appreciates me spending the time writing things here- ;)

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        • [Old Memory]
          11 years ago

          You are incredible, you always give good advice :) ^.^

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          • TerryVie
            11 years ago

            *blushes* thank you very much ^_^ i appreciate it greatly!

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        • Shackleford96
          11 years ago

          You are most certainly welcome!

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  • Jweezee
    11 years ago

    Yeah, i cried like a bitch. I think she was embarrased for me.

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    • sweetpea29
      11 years ago

      really? :O were you embarrased or just like eh whatever?

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      • Jweezee
        11 years ago

        I was joking ;)

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        • sweetpea29
          11 years ago

          oh :/ nooo!

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  • Shackleford96
    11 years ago

    I would probably think it was hot or something...

    I'm weird, I know.

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    • sweetpea29
      11 years ago

      really? boyfriend thought the same.

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      • Shackleford96
        11 years ago

        That's messed up! :P

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        • sweetpea29
          11 years ago

          kidding, he felt very bad.

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  • bleach_baby
    11 years ago

    It's not normal for it to hurt as bad as you described...

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  • kjking.7
    11 years ago

    How old are you?
    And its normal :)

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    • sweetpea29
      11 years ago

      I'm 18 (:

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  • lc1988
    11 years ago

    Don't be THAT girl.

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