Is it normal to have become revolved around my boyfriend?

Everything I do now is based on him. I have become obsessed and crazy. We have been together for a year and 7 months now. I use to hang out with my friends at the beginning but now I just sit at home everyday and wait for him to arrive from work. I don't let him go with his friends anymore because I dont trust him because of the things he has done since we have been together. The thing is, I do not understand why he still lives with me. He recently told me he was unhappy. So I told him last night if he is unhappy then why doesnt he leave. He said because he loves me but if he is unhappy why would that matter if he loves me? Wouldnt he rather be happy, alone and living a better life? And I know he does love me because trust me, what we have gone through, he would of left a long time ago if he didnt. We were perfect at the beginning, he use to care more and was nicer, so was I. Sometimes when we have our talks he says he wished I could be how i was when we first met. I wish I could be the same as before too but I don't know how. I don't even understand how i changed. I know that the right thing to do is for us to seperate but can not accept it. And when it does happen, I won't know what the hell to do with my life. I am so attached to him. I really need help and someone to talk to and to give more details to about our relationship, I would say them here but just trying to get the main point out. I don't have anyone to talk to anymore so please help. Oh and by the way, he is a scorpio so it makes sense why he likes to keep to himself more and not discuss his emotions with anyone and at times he is VERY stubborn.

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  • HSVWHO

    You dont understand why he would stick around if he is unhappy .. Right!? ... Why are you sticking around if you are unhappy?
    Ask your self.. Would you live your entire life in pain or just break it off and hurt for a few months and move on. This take courage. 7 months is not long at all. Unless you are 16.

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  • Thanks joybird(: we are still together and yesturday we were doing very good. I noticed that I do start all of the arguements by bringing up little things that bug me but when I didn't do that he was the nicest person again.

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  • joybird

    Learn not to make the same mistakes again.
    1. Make ourself your priority.
    2. Do not speak to him in any way that you would not speak to his mother - in other words, with respect. No screaming nasty swearing etc.
    3. If he told you what annoys him, don't try to test him by pushing his buttons.

    When I want to tell my husband off, I decide that I will say it the next day if it is still annoying me. 99% of the time I've forgotten what it was.

    Good luck girl but establish some friendships and allow him some space too!!

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  • cannibus14

    please break up. please love yourself more.
    it's going to be terrible... for probably a while. but it will only get better as time goes on. eventually you will start talking to your friends/ make new friends, and remember what used to make you happy.

    it sounds like you're staying together just in the name of love... like you're afraid that if you break up you miss out on love. this is so understandable because love seems like all that we really have. but love for yourself is the most powerful and important love of all. you can be with someone while still loving yourself, but that's because they make you love yourself more. someone that makes you love yourself more than you would if you were single wouldn't ask you why you're not the same as you were before.

    i don't doubt that he loves you but this isn't the kind of love you want. you need love that isn't all consuming, that doesn't inhibit your love for yourself.

    sorry this comment is so choppy but i get really emotional about this subject. please please please please please do yourself a favor and break up so you can start loving yourself again.

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  • wamae72

    l think you both need to go for marriage counseling.

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  • I am not ganna waiste my fucking time writing perfect. I do have a life and just needed some advice so STFU!!!!

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  • FUCK YOU

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  • Rufus

    TL;DR. Please re-take 1st grade grammar.

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  • Really? Why?

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  • HSVWHO

    Low

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  • What would you all say if I told you we talked it out and Im just moving with him into his moms house? (right now we live at my dads and use to live at his moms)

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  • Na, I don't have freinds anymore and the ones from before were all fucken fake. Ive preobably never had a TRUE friend

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  • HSVWHO

    Yeah it is not gonna be easy. Never is. Jut stay strong. Go out with you friends! Enjoy being single. Look at the positives, you don't have to be revolved around him, you can't make some one love u.
    Peace, x

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  • Ugh I hate this though..he's the first person I actually loved and the longest I had gone out with someone before him was like a month! We had some really fun times though, my step brother saw him getting his stuff and he even thought it was random because we were pretty good with eachother. But it's all my fault, I did this to myself and he warned me but I kept doing the things he did not like

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  • HSVWHO

    Sorry to hear... Probably a good idea to Move on... You must find someone you trust to be happy. If your not happy you will bring him down too. That's Selfish.

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  • Well, he is actually here in front of me right now packing his stuff. He broke up with me after he came home from work. No, it was 1 YEAR and 7 months. I just dont know what to do..all i keep thinking about is all of our memries together. Its just really hard. But i dont think i will get over him. He always has said i need to grow up so maybe when i mature more in a couple years i could talk to him again...idk

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    • lc1988

      Awe I'm sorry =( I know it'll be hard to get over him but there are more fish in the sea. You really need to work on trust though. If he goes out with friends, have a girls night! Being around each other 24/7 can be toxic.

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